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[Joseph28]

I have a dilemma. I have a long distance relationship with this wonderful woman overseas. It's been going for two and a half years but I haven't met her yet. We've been contemplating meeting in person for months and I'm wondering if I should send money so she can visit or I go to her instead?

For some background, the woman I'm dating is from Odessa, Ukraine and we met through online chatting. It was from this site called A Foreign Affair It was recommended to me by friends who actually met their wives through the site.

I'm not "buying" a person, I'm only using the services. I talk to my gf on the phone with the help of a translator. That was a year ago, I'm getting better with my Ukrainian and she with her English We can communicate fairly well without help.

I want to know if it's safe to travel in Ukraine during December? I wanna spend the holidays with her. It's always been Skype and telephone calls in the past two years, I was thinking we should spend time together in person.

It’s not that I don’t trust her, it’s just I’m not sure if I want her to travel alone by herself coming here in Colorado. She did say that she will be fine and I know she can do it, but I dunno, I kind of feel iffy about it.

Tell me guys, should I visit her in Ukraine or should I just send her money to have her travel here US? Any advice will greatly help. Thanks in advance!!!

 

[FwoGiZ]

There are lots o trolls lately just trying to trigger us in here eh?... or is it me?

 

[Reykhel]

Tell me guys, should I visit her in Ukraine or should I just send her money to have her travel here US?

Option three: Get a life and a flesh and blood female.

 

[Masculinity]

There are lots o trolls lately just trying to trigger us in here eh?... or is it me?

Duuude, I think this time of the year is mating season for trolls. A lot of them are coming out of the caves.

 

[MrAddiction]

I have a long distance relationship ... but I haven't met her yet.

That is a contradictio in adjecto. That is no relationship!!!!!!!!!

 

[Simultaneous]

If you want to visit Ukraine get a proper tour guide and have a few girls lined up to meet. Do not go to another country for one woman...you have a correspondence relationship not a real relationship...and Ukraine is known for scams. These women will suck you dry for money more often than not.

You can fine nice girls there but you will need to be there for a vacation or business and not on some dating site. Those sites attract a certain type of girl.

 

[RedScorpion]

If it wasn't obvious it was a troll - from a recent post of his:

"This is the first time I’ve ever been in this position but I’m in a dilemma of choosing between two beautiful women. These two women, Elena and Isabela, who I’m fortunate enough to meet and get to know are as different as night and day."

"I’m from Orange County and I live comfortably with a modest job that I love. It has been a while for me since I’ve had a girlfriend so I decided to date again after 4 years of being single."

You might note the various inconsistencies.

 

[ImJustaGirl]

Tell her to come to you... don’t send money though, buy her tickets and stay in a hotel. I’m from that area of the world (not Ukraine though) and while there is a perfectly good chance she’s a very nice person who’s just escaping from a culture of violent alcoholic men, there’s also a good chance her family is forcing their attractive daughter into into swindling a stupid American (they all think Americans are idiot slobs) into getting their family citizenship or at the very least, steal all the toilet seats in your house.

 

[MrAddiction]

Congrats, you've taken the red pill!

Must have been a Placebo! ;-)

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

There's a documentary about dudes going to Russia to get girls. Half and half, some are honest, some are outright scams. The sites that hook people up don't care, as they just get to hook them up.

In the doc, one guy found true love and brought her back. Another guy sent cash, went to visit, fell deeper, sent more cash, but it was all a con. She was doing the same to other dudes.

If this IS a troll, it's something a lot of guys are considering anyway.

Assume you've got a 50% percent chance of being scammed (and having been scammed for the past 2 years) and act accordingly.

 

[MrAddiction]

I have a dilemma. I have a long distance relationship with this wonderful woman overseas. It's been going for two and a half years but I haven't met her yet

Reconsidering: that means you did not date/plate/lay other girls in that time. You are 31 -means you are in Mono mode since the age of 29?

Wake up, wake up, wake up - or better: somebody wake me up, that can not be for real.