TitaniumFireBEAR
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 24, 2004
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- Age
- 46
You can buy this or not. I prefer to instill concepts that drive YOU to drive your life, not specific steps.
Tips are merely piece meal planning. The concept or plan is strategic, it drives the true happiness we seek each and everyday.
Because complex topics are easily digested by way of 'concepts' I've elected to drive home what needs to be done to better yourself, and the women you meet, increasing the odds of success.
Selling v. Marketing
You might ask, what h-e-l-l does that have to with romance, love, attracting women, or getting nooky?
EVERYTHING
If you have ever been sales, you know what road I am going down. Think, Credit Cards, Cars, Trucks, Service Plans, Investments, etc. Let's go with the concept of buying a Truck.
A dealer calls you to SELL you a Truck. He offers a GREAT deal, he'll take $5,000 off, and it's fully loaded. There's tremendeous problems here...
-First off, he violated the DNC list.
-Second...
...what if you hate trucks
...just bought one
...have no $ to afford one
...don't like to use your own transportation
...have a "friend" in the business who can do better
Any NUMBER of reasons, yet he pushes it on you.
"It's great. Fully loaded, just like an Escalade. You have to have this. All the girls love it."
"But, I don't like trucks."
"Are you kidding?? You've seen the rappers, they get crazy girls. Don't you want crazy women, to look like a player?"
"No."
Perturbed, you hang up with him. And consequently, the salesman who was told it was a great truck (and it is) just wasted his valuable time calling someone who wasn't a Probable Purchaser. Not to mention, his confidence is shattered, you're pissed, and he has to work the courage up AGAIN to do it.
Eventually, the salesman works up the smarts to find a LEVERAGED plan of attack. One that improves his productivity, income, happiness, customer satisfaction, and pleasure about his job.
He reverts to:
MARKETING
Here, the salesman...
...takes out advertisments broadcasting their great low prices
...presents to ONLY interested buyers, people who won't waste his time or haggle over price, because they WANT a truck, it's just a matter of what TRUCK
...uses TV marketing to draw immediate buyers.
Observe the ways his life improves. Instead of focusing on bringing customers in, the marketing does that. He can work on his knowledge of products and customer satisfaction, follow up better and lead a balanced life. He's not NEEDY about buyers, because his message is loud and clear. It's vocal, being shout from the mountains.
Where does this apply to DJism, PUA, and all the rest?
Simply put, foisting your product on women, without consideration of yourself is the ultimate long-term plan to failure. Having worked in sales many years, I've seen how Selling v. Marketing works. Selling is really matching buyers wants and needs to what you have. If there's no match, and they're not going to buy, why waste the time? There's someone else, somewhere else ready to buy what's being offered, that will benefit you more and not waste time. Precisely what you want.
Selling v Marketing means you can't throw your product on those who won't buy it. Interest or no interest, you have to be interested in yourself. It does little good to grab a girl, who wants to date you because of the sweet connections to concerts you have and be concerned about how you look or your style.
Make yourself a desirable package, and with a few minor human relations skills, you're golden. Being with women is very easy, when you're right with yourself first. Being out of concert with yourself will lead to the same thing in life, and with friends, and even women.
After that approaching women is clock work, then, you know you're in. You've worked on yourself. You've been lifting for a year, eating right, taking art classes, learning kickboxing, and just enjoying life. She'll see this LACK of need, and instead, a DESIRE to live, expand, explore and be immediately attracted to the possibilities.
More to follow.
.02 Courtesy of B.E.A.R.
Tips are merely piece meal planning. The concept or plan is strategic, it drives the true happiness we seek each and everyday.
Because complex topics are easily digested by way of 'concepts' I've elected to drive home what needs to be done to better yourself, and the women you meet, increasing the odds of success.
Selling v. Marketing
You might ask, what h-e-l-l does that have to with romance, love, attracting women, or getting nooky?
EVERYTHING
If you have ever been sales, you know what road I am going down. Think, Credit Cards, Cars, Trucks, Service Plans, Investments, etc. Let's go with the concept of buying a Truck.
A dealer calls you to SELL you a Truck. He offers a GREAT deal, he'll take $5,000 off, and it's fully loaded. There's tremendeous problems here...
-First off, he violated the DNC list.
-Second...
...what if you hate trucks
...just bought one
...have no $ to afford one
...don't like to use your own transportation
...have a "friend" in the business who can do better
Any NUMBER of reasons, yet he pushes it on you.
"It's great. Fully loaded, just like an Escalade. You have to have this. All the girls love it."
"But, I don't like trucks."
"Are you kidding?? You've seen the rappers, they get crazy girls. Don't you want crazy women, to look like a player?"
"No."
Perturbed, you hang up with him. And consequently, the salesman who was told it was a great truck (and it is) just wasted his valuable time calling someone who wasn't a Probable Purchaser. Not to mention, his confidence is shattered, you're pissed, and he has to work the courage up AGAIN to do it.
Eventually, the salesman works up the smarts to find a LEVERAGED plan of attack. One that improves his productivity, income, happiness, customer satisfaction, and pleasure about his job.
He reverts to:
MARKETING
Here, the salesman...
...takes out advertisments broadcasting their great low prices
...presents to ONLY interested buyers, people who won't waste his time or haggle over price, because they WANT a truck, it's just a matter of what TRUCK
...uses TV marketing to draw immediate buyers.
Observe the ways his life improves. Instead of focusing on bringing customers in, the marketing does that. He can work on his knowledge of products and customer satisfaction, follow up better and lead a balanced life. He's not NEEDY about buyers, because his message is loud and clear. It's vocal, being shout from the mountains.
Where does this apply to DJism, PUA, and all the rest?
Simply put, foisting your product on women, without consideration of yourself is the ultimate long-term plan to failure. Having worked in sales many years, I've seen how Selling v. Marketing works. Selling is really matching buyers wants and needs to what you have. If there's no match, and they're not going to buy, why waste the time? There's someone else, somewhere else ready to buy what's being offered, that will benefit you more and not waste time. Precisely what you want.
Selling v Marketing means you can't throw your product on those who won't buy it. Interest or no interest, you have to be interested in yourself. It does little good to grab a girl, who wants to date you because of the sweet connections to concerts you have and be concerned about how you look or your style.
Make yourself a desirable package, and with a few minor human relations skills, you're golden. Being with women is very easy, when you're right with yourself first. Being out of concert with yourself will lead to the same thing in life, and with friends, and even women.
After that approaching women is clock work, then, you know you're in. You've worked on yourself. You've been lifting for a year, eating right, taking art classes, learning kickboxing, and just enjoying life. She'll see this LACK of need, and instead, a DESIRE to live, expand, explore and be immediately attracted to the possibilities.
More to follow.
.02 Courtesy of B.E.A.R.