Selfishness

[zekko]

Rollo posted this link on relationship game in another thread:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/08/26/relationship-game-thoughts/

The first line jumped out at me:
"If your girlfriend is complaining about your selfishness, you’re doing it right."

This jumped out at me becaue I had just been thinking how a lot of the mindset that is advocated here can be summed up by saying "be selfish".
Be the center of attention, be the leader of your group, take what you want, all that stuff.

So here's the question: Do women find the trait of selfishness attractive?
A selfish man might work harder to better himself and make sure he has all that he needs. He is invested in himself. I could see how that might appeal to a woman who is programmed to seek a high status providing male.

One other thought:
It's kind of funny when you ponder how minute and insignificant our existence is compared to the scope of the universe (or multiverse), and compare this to pickup advice telling you to walk around thinking you're the sh!t all the time.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

"Self-love is not so great a sin as self-neglect." - Henry V

The women who complain about selfishness are themselves selfish in their complaint. You can get real semantic with what constitutes selfishness, but I think that's just the negative way of describing self-interest or self-priority. Women don't want to occupy the pedestal best used for yourself.

 

[Huffman]

Many things could be considered selfish... if you help your friends a lot, that can be selfish too. Selfish because it might bring you joy, and also because they will do you favours in return.

So pretty much everything we do could be called selfish.

P.S. the though about the universe: We maybe don't matter on the grand scale of things, but why worry about it? The universe is big, but is that a direct reason for you to not take that cake?

 

[zekko]

I think that's just the negative way of describing self-interest or self-priority

Yes, most likely. The question is, do women find the fact that you place a big priority and very large value on yourself an attractive quality (call this selfishness if you like)? I'm beginning to think so, but I haven't tested this so I'm not certain. That's why I wanted to get some opinions from some of the guys here.

The universe is big, but is that a direct reason for you to not take that cake?

I will have some cake please.