Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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joe45

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has anyone dated or has any friends who are just totally selfish. i dated this girl whenever we went out she always wanted to pick the restaurant to eat at-i didn't even get to pick ,and yes i paid, the movie well she picked-i wanted to watch a different flick ,but she lied and said that movie was 3 hrs-later found out it was only 1 hr 50 min. i always go out to her area, but shes unwilling to come out to my area-1 hr commute. when u ask her to go to your area shes so damn hestiant. she ask you to hang out with her, but yes its always in her area, and doing what she wants, and not what you want. be it watch the movei you want, go shopping at the places you want, go to your area to play tennis. its whatever is convient , what she wants, what she likes

this is also with friends too. when they want you to hang out with them m you are there, but when u want to hang out with them its like tehy are always busy.

youu guys have stories or sittuaition of selfish girls you dated or even selfish guy freinds or even friends. please tell me the story
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DonGorgon

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Yup more and more people are getting like this as they become more and more disillusioned with interpersonal relationships due to to excessive competition brought on be excessive capitalism.
 

Quiksilver

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Get rid of any friends/girlfriends who are that selfish.

Just ice them out of your life, and make some real friends who understand the value of true friends. Those people will not know what they're doing until they've lost everyone around them.

When that girl windes up with no friends/boyfriend or anybody who cares about her.. That's when she'll be ready to understand the value of friendship.

I don't really have any selfish friends anymore. We all help eachother out, pay for eachother on occasion, and stick up for eachother. I didn't really think about that until now, actually. I know why it is like that though. I just act indifferent and cold/emotionless to really selfish people. No paying for them, no taking them places, no socializing with them, no laughing with them... Don't act mean or cruel, just, as I said before; ice them out of your life. They are below you and aren't worthy of your attention as a friend.

Respect your own value and don't bring yourself down by being friends with somebody who really doesn't care about you.
 

HarlequinMan

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This only happens because you are not strong enough to lead...

or it could be the woman.

I read an article yesterday about women that are that way, they lost their feminine nature, and are not willing to submit to man. You should steer clear of these women because they wont change....if you try to be masculine, your relationship is over.

Plus wouldnt you rather bang a chick that is submissive???
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KontrollerX

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Yeah the world is filled with cowards, traitors and liars these days as well as selfish fvcking scum but there are still good people out there.

It just takes a bit more filtering and searching to find them.
 

Lord Shinra

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I had friends like that.
They got a No Confidence vote from me, I resigned from the Senate of their pitiful existences, and went my own way and now co-lead my own crew, while they still call me to hang out.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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