Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Self Reliance : the secret of the Jerk: Part 2

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CONFIDENCE...i forgot to mention, but it's always mentioned at sosuave, so let me rephrase once again.

Have you ever noticed how this particular guy, the way he walks, the way he stands, the way he talks, his attitude, the way he carries himself....These are all indications of what type of person you are.

People WILL feel your vibe if you have confidence.
I stand tall, my chest is ******ds, my face is forward, i walk firm and fast, i talk like im knowledgeable about things, my attitude with people is im friendly, i speak when needed..at restaurants..etc..if there's a problem with the service orfood. not giving a crap about what others think, just act carelessly in a specific way.

well this is what i do most of the time, and for some reason i notice that people will notice your confidence, it's like some strange aura that intimidates them. i know i can be intimidating at times, because i show confidence.
I guarantee, once you get the whole confidence thing down, YOU WILL NOTICE how people perceive you. YOU WILL NOTICE people being intimidated by you. once your confidence EXISTS, YOU WILL KNOW IT.

you know whats the most important thing about confidence?
This is the Secret of the Jerk, this is the trait all Jerks posess.

ACTING CAREFREE, when you do what you want, when you want, even though you may be the only person to. People will realize that about you and look highly upon you. When you act carefree it shows, that you know what you want, you act upon it when you choose to, and you dont give a crap about what others think of you.
This is the field in where many "nice guys" fail.
they wait for approval before they do something, especially from girls. they dont show carefree, instead they show CARE. if you are always considerate or "caring" of someone's approval, then you are just an AFC, a wussy, a guy who cant make his own decisions. If you worry too much about rejection or ppl disliking you, then this is where you need to change. This trait is good to have , but in situations like at work it's not the best...so just be careful not to act like this all the time!! hehhe
BTW, acting carefree is not what i really mean, WHAT i really mean is acting on something, and not hesitating/procrastinating...but yea in a sense, it is somewhat acting carefree.

Acting carefree is the most important aspect of the "Jerk" and of Confidence. Remember this at all times.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You have good intentions.. from what you said about helping people but I'd have to say, not a very good tip because it's a rehash.

In other words, I can sum up your entire post with one word:
Spontaneity.
 

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Acting carefree and being carefree are 2 different things

Confidence is natural, earned, learned over time. Acting is also learned and a skill but its different to be and act. And yes you can tell the difference
 

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Originally posted by Skel
Acting carefree and being carefree are 2 different things

Confidence is natural, earned, learned over time. Acting is also learned and a skill but its different to be and act. And yes you can tell the difference
i like.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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About the "Caring" part - what's so wussy about washing dishes after she makes dinner at her place for you? So I should be carefree and wonder off so I can watch some TV?

Showing consideration/caring = boyfriend material. Acting carefree (like not uptight about some things) = also boyfriend material. Being inconsiderate/showing no care = Jerk material.

A Nice Guy is a Yes Man who showers the person of his affection love and stuff because he is needy. SHowing care is NOT NEEDY. therefore does not equate to "NICE GUY."
 
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