Self Realization

[scholarjan]

A few days ago I posted a thread, when I was discouraged, tired, and quite frankly demotivated from making progress in talking to women. I was seeing no progress and was frustrated because I really wanted to be part of this experience that some men are enjoying. My self esteem crashed hard and now I'm starting to recover and reform my ideals on why I approach women.

Lesson 1. Approaching Women Should Not Be An Exercise
- Do not put meeting random women on a schedule unless you're making a date.
- If you encounter a woman and think she is interesting, strike up a casual conversation for fun!
- Don't be bummed out if she doesn't respond, give you her number/fake number. Just think about the fun you may have had, when you talked to that woman.
- If you didn't have fun when talking to her, then why waste more time by asking her on a date later on?
- Make it fun, not a "game."
Lesson 2. Realize Your Self Worth
- That's right buddy, average Joe Spudd has some charm.
- You may not be the most attractive man, but that shouldn't stop you from being hygienic, stylish, and interesting.
- Make a list on your personal values.
- Make a list on what you want to improve on.
Lesson 3. What Do You Want In A Woman
- A lot of men easily submit to women, since they want love, sex, and other nice benefit.
- Women screen men, in order to find their best suitor, so a man should do the same.
- High Quality women aren't necessarily the best looking ones, but the ones that resonate to your personality, and seem like genuine individuals who have a lot to offer besides their looks.
- Stop thinking of women as HB 1-10's, because of their looks. If they are attractive they are attractive, if not, then they are not.
- Make a list of attractive qualities you want in a woman, besides hot looks.
Lesson 4. Don't Forget Your Life's Passions
- A lot guys when in the game, we forget our what we are most passionate about
- Men sometimes place women on top of our hobbies, jobs, education, and other things that stick to you in life.
- If you don't have passions then find them. It should be a fun soul searching adventure!
Lesson 5. Don't Over Analyze
- Talking to women is not a science, its a social skill.
- Don't invest too much thought in a woman, its a recipe for disappointment.
- You CAN'T CREATE ATTRACTION, she either feels it or she doesn't. However seduction is a different story...but even that REQUIRES ATTRACTION
Lesson 6. Don't Give Up
- You may have been rejected 98 times, but the point is that you tried!
- You won't be able to understand all women, you can't generalize, different strokes for different folks, which is why rejections are high.
- It doesn't make you a weirdo to have more rejections than successes, it makes you a persistent individual, who may have a had bad luck or little itty bitty factors that in the end don't matter.

This reflection should hopefully make me a better lover of women, rather than a misogynistic PUA/DJ.

 

[Iceberg]

Wise words

 

[Fly By Night]

This is what should be inside of a DJ's mind.

Another thing I want to add is to Be Thorough. Every time you talk to a woman, don't talk to her for the sole purpose of getting her number or bedding her. Talk to her with real interest and actually give a s*** about what she says. Rushing things only leads to failure and negative thinking. Virtually, don't become outcome dependent.