"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Self-Improvement

garruk

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I feel as though in the end, game is just a selling a product, and that above all its more important to just be a good product.



What are some ways you guys improve yourselves as people?

working out
hobbies
careers

what else?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Improving yourself socially is important too. Being good with people and keeping the right company is vital! Improve yourself spiritually and morally, peace of mind helps you improve at other things at a faster rate.
 

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to improve yourself in anything, you must challenge yourself. most people are content in their lifestyle and never change thus being mediocre all their lives. you have to go one step further than what you would normally do... and you will end up improving small parts of your life and develop as a person AKA developing a personality

there is a quote that goes something like "If you compete against others, you stop once you reach their level, if you compete against yourself you will find that you can always do better." see its not any set thing like working out or dressing better, by always doing something a little outside of your comfort zone you are changing for the better

that's how i improve....
 

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don t be attached to the outcome
don t instantly call yourself a loser cos you ve failed
when i first started as a language teacher i was fired by the school head of a language school for being incompetent

now i get letters from students telling me how much they ve enjoyed my teaching

i could have packed it up after my first terrible experience instead i chose to persevere and the rest is history as they say ( though u can t please everybody )
 

garruk

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hmm i never thought of improving myself socially. thats a great point, and probably something ive overlooked. what are some ways to improve myself socially?

how do you become genuinely a better conversationalist? like physically improve your social skills, as opposed to just having some canned lines to use.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ArcBound

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Well like I said just step out of your comfort zone... sometimes I just blurt out what's on my mind good or bad and then I see the consequences or results without thinking about how it would be perceived... If it turns out bad then it gets subconsciously written in my mind as something I should not say, and with enough crash and burns and things that just work you evolve a pattern of what should or shouldn't say and the effect it will have.

Also even if something you said is retarded, if you let a conversation flow by just saying what's on your mind it involves a lot more emotion (whether good or bad :eek:) and a more memorable connection. That's why I stick away from canned lines cause you can tell one something is not genuine or of the moment.
 
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