"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Self-Improvement Reading - my list and further suggestions?

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Many years back a wise man whom I've never met went by the handle of "STR8UP" told me something (I'm not sure these were his words, but the first time I've heard for my younger self) - "build it and they will come". I'm at a point in my life where this rings truer than ever (I'm 35). I see the ramifications in everyday adjustments I make. I believe that reading and learning/experiencing is the key beyond the nominal daily grind and incremental progress. I've read the basics (sometimes more than once) - The Game, 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, How To Win Friends and Influence People, etc. Most recent readings include Dalio's "Principles", Robbin's "Awaken The Giant Within" (oldie but goodie), Peterson's "12 Rules for Life", and currently halfway through "Misbehaving: The Making of Behavioral Economics" by Richard Thaler. I have a few fictional books queued up in my Kindle (1984 - yes I'm ashamed I've never read it, Crime and Punishment, and Machiavelli's The Prince), but I'm wondering if any of you have suggestions?

Next books I've been eyeing are "Money: Master The Game" by Robbins and Ferris' "Tools of Titans" (though I've heard mixed reviews about these). Any suggestions? Thank you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tactical guide to women
Mode one
All book by Robert Greene
Bachelor pad economics
Rational male
David Goggins biographie
Arnold biographie
 

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The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand
Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand
The Great Gatsby- F. Scott Fitzgerald.

The Fountainhead I think is really good for helping to understand the idea of making yourself your own mental point of origin and letting no person and no thing take you off course.
Atlas is pretty good for seeing Man/Men as the creators and builders. Also good for helping to recognize the dangers that women can pose when they complicate your life rather than complement your life.
Gatsby...Kill. The. Beta. The dangers of Oneitis. Just because someone is rich does not mean they are better than you. Lots more to unpack in this one.

Full disclosure: I was an English teacher for about 10 years so I lean towards the Literature side of things in reading.

PS: Let me know if you get into any of these or the ones that you or others have listed. I'd love to go back and forth about them.
 

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The Art of the Deal by Donald Trump & Tony Schwartz, How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Art of the Deal by Donald Trump & Tony Schwartz, How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Someone as recommended the Trump book before,might also try that one.
 

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I like the audio books personally. I use them during work or driving and jogging. Audible is running a promo for two free audio books. Then they gave me a promo to spend 9.99 for three more. You own them for life and you can always go back to them whether you continue your subscription with Audible or not.

https://slickdeals.net/f/12869176-a...tomers-only?src=SiteSearchV2_SearchBarV2Algo1
i have audible account, love audiobooks . I always have my headphone on when i can.
 

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Self Mastery through conscious autosuggestion
IT WORKS
 
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