"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LuisGarcia10

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Right, after 2 months of moping about my ex I am finally pretty much at the point where I can move on- the final nail in the coffin being her conveniently unblocking me on facebook a few days after her status changed to in a relationship, she was apparently with him only weeks after breaking with me after saying she needed to be single etc.

Anyway;

Started channelling aggression/disapointment through exercise which seems to be working. Everytime I think of something which pisses me off I use it to spur me on to run harder.

Tonight I have my first date for 2 months. I'll be honest, she's no higher than a 5 but to be honest, it's just meeting girls, getting back into the habit and not spending the night moping about the house. I also have another potential date lined up for weekend/early next week but not counting my chickens until I get a definate date/time as she might well flake, she is HB 8 IMO so I'm holding out some good hope for that.

Overall goals, lose a bit of weight, I'm not fat by any means but could do with losing a bit of stomach fat. Cut down on drinking, get my own place and in the process meet lots of women, and who knows, if I like one of them then maybe an LTR although after my last experience I am being far more picky, they need to be far more than just a pretty face that says the right things.

Any advice or encouragement would be welcome. Feels so good to be back on my feet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LuisGarcia10

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Update; date went well overall.
Probably not enough kino/romantic involvement, no kiss close at the end although we have arranged to see each other again next week and as soon as she got home she text me saying she can't wait to see me again, so I obviously did something right.

HB8 has transformed into a confirmed date as well.

Really, really ****ing happy at the moment, feels like my life has turned around in the blink of an eyelid almost.
 

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Sounds good. Eating healthy and losing weight is always a good thing to do, it makes a lot of difference. You will do well when you remember that the cravings for chocolate or other things is not you, it is a biological reaction, and it will disappear if you don't feed it. You can eat vegetables instead, or pick up drinking tea, because a lot of the time it is just that you want something to eat or drink.

Good to hear about the date. Even when it's not the girl of your dreams it helps you gain a better perspective on life, and it is fun. Overall, just doing anything to improve and to meet people is great for your self-confidence. You feel like you are back in business, playing the game again.


Unblocking you in Facebook to show she is in a new relationship - what a b!tch. Sadistic behavior is evil, no matter how small it is. The desire to hurt someone just for the sake of hurting is despicable. I hope she gets what she deserves.
 

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To be fair to her it might just be a coincidence, I dunno. Either way I'm not rising to it, she sent my stuff back to me today and I wished her all the best, not that I actually mean it I hope he cheats on her and throws her heart on the floor, but I'm not showing any sign of weakness to her.

But yeah it was good last night, this is the first time in my life where I've had 2 dates lined up within a day of each other which I do next week, and one of the girls is absolutely stunning.

Eating isn't my problem really it's alcohol but I'll get there. Can't wait until next Thursday when I see this HB8.
 
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