Self-improvement beyond our control?

[Hockey Playa]

Ok after my recent breakup with my LTR , ive been obsessed with self improvement which is a good thing. But there is some things that are really bringing me down. There are some flaws with me that are so annoying and there is nothing i can do to fix them, its basically my genetics. I have an awesome face and look great after i shave, but my facial hair alwayz leaves the biggest 5 '0 clock shadow and grows back soo fast. It takes away all the attention to my good features on my face. It makes me so mad when 90 % of the kids my age have clean faces. I swear if i could eliminate shaving i would have 100 % more confidence and look like a movie star ahhh

 

[socialsecurity]

I think this is an issue of trying to accentuate a "highlight" of yourself, instead of insisting on hiding it. A lot of teens your age may have clean faces but that doesn't mean that you have to. Right now it's pretty trendy to have some facial hair, even as a teen, so why not take advantage? Once you've got a goatee/beard, whatever, having some stubble come afternoon won't be a huge issue.

Goodluck

 

[Hockey Playa]

nah i have to get rid of it , it looks so bad on me, my face looks so much better without it, but i cant shave everyday cause i get so much sensitivity, its holding back all my other improvements because when i look in the mirror theres this ugly shadow always there

 

[B-Lemond]

Part of being a DJ is being mysterious and unpredictable.

If you shave every day and all the time, how are you being unpredictable.

Mix-it up a bit. Besides the real issue is not how you can do a cleaner shave but it is about how you feel about yourself.

The first step to solving your insecurity is by admitting that you are insecure about your facial hair. Then start from that.


On a side note, why did your relationship fail?

(I give you info, you give me info.)


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Be DIFFERENT in an ATTRACTIVE way.

 

[Hockey Playa]

well my relationship failed for a classic reason i have learned. At first when i wasnt attached and didnt care much the attraction flourished, after a couple months the roles reversed i started becoming attached and stopped paying attention to my own life. I stopped coming here for advice and fell into classic nice-guy mode, she lost intereset i assumed, and gave me some lame excuses, that i pressure her and stuff. Im still mad about it, it taught me some things though, but now i spend my time self improving, i just need advice to get past this road block thats ruining my physical appearance

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by Hockey Playa
i just need advice to get past this road block thats ruining my physical appearance

First you need to admit that you are insecure about your looks.

Next you need to try to get rid of that insecurity with as much will power as you can.

Thirdly, do some self-affirmations everyday.
(anything that you are not confident about, say that you are)

Example: (if you are shy and unconfident)
Say to yourself everyday in the mirror - "I am outgoing, fun, and full of confidence. etc.) You get the idea.

Try doing a search on self affirmations as well.

 

[itishe]

I want to grow a goatee, so be lucky you have the option of having one or not right now.

 

[toddC]

i'm not sure u can do this to ur face lol but wax it? or even better nair?