Self depreciating humour - yah or nah?

[The_Reaper]

Some observations.

I have a friend who is a natural alpha male. It permeates his thoughts and behaviour and talk. He's super intelligent and masculine. We'll call him Dave, because, well, that's his name.

I have another friend, Donal, who is neurotic, insecure, but overall a good guy.

Dave, the alpha, sometimes uses self-depreciating humour, and he gets away with it - in fact it suits him - because he is so naturally high status. If he calls himself a dumbass, it makes little difference; anyone knows from listening to him that he's got a godamn supercomputer for a brain. He mostly only uses it in the company of males.

Donal NEVER uses self-depreciating humour, and it has the effect of making it seem that he's trying to hard to be alpha. He tries to maintain a kind of superiority by boosting himself up wherever possible, through boasting mainly, and criticising others where possible (unconstructive criticism).

So, if I have any point, it's that it depends on your character. One shouldn't overdo self-depreciation - it should be used VERY sparingly, I believe, especially when macking on some girls.

Comments, thoughts?

 

[sodbuster]

MEN understand self depreciating humor. Women don't. UNLESS you are so high value they know better,they just don't get it.

My mother told me"If a teacher asks what grade you deserve,tell them an A, If they are dumb enough to ask, they might be dumb enough to give it to you." The same applies to women. If they aren't bright enough to catch the joke-they might believe it. You do know the 3 main forms of mass communication? Telephone,telegraph and tellawoman[do you really want a stupid woman telling all her friends you are stupid?

 

[The_Reaper]

MEN understand self depreciating humor. Women don't. UNLESS you are so high value they know better,they just don't get it.

My mother told me"If a teacher asks what grade you deserve,tell them an A, If they are dumb enough to ask, they might be dumb enough to give it to you." The same applies to women. If they aren't bright enough to catch the joke-they might believe it. You do know the 3 main forms of mass communication? Telephone,telegraph and tellawoman[do you really want a stupid woman telling all her friends you are stupid?

Good input. And I'm writing that one down, telephone, telegraph, and tellawoman!

 

[theunflushables]

Unless used correctly, women will see self-deprecating humor as looking for an ego boost and being unconfident in yourself. Unless you can clearly make it look like you're just having a laugh at your own expense, don't use it.

 

[Dannyrt34]

I've had success with self depreciating humor so I'm a strong supporter of this method.

It really should only be used once you establish that you are of high status. We all know the real reason for using ****y/funny and neg-hits are to bring yourself up to the same level as the hotty you're after.

But sometimes, and this is rare, you bring yourself up too high. To the point where you can possible scare off a potential date. Imagine if you will, a high status male that is also very ****y, he can 'overdo' it quite easily. He can become too intimidating, he becomes an ass. Now imagine this same guy, using this ****yness, and neg-hits against HIMSELF. This brings him down to a 'less-intimidating' level. He is instantly more comfortable to be around. And from my experience, comfort is a huge factor when progressing with a girl.

I'm not the best at explaining this, but I hope you get the point I'm trying to make.

 

[LDBaha]

Use it as having fun of yourself, make fun of everything and it works.
Especially if you both know it's not true.

Like usually girls think i'm really smart so when i do or say something dumb i say something like "oh man! i'm so dumb i might as well be a plant" or something like that. im tired i can't think of a good example.

If you joke about something she's not sure about, you are screwed.

If she doesn't know you're smart and you say "i'm so dumb a monkey could do my job" she will believe it...

It's like its self depreciating but at the same time you both know it isn't and its just a joke...