Self confidence/ mental block

[chaj3_11]

Dont post often but i read alot on here. I need help/tips with confidence.

Long story short all my life i have suffered with self confidence. I used to be fat (not now) and i still worry how i look and avoid photos like the plague.

Its not with speaking to girls or making friends its more with taking on new challenges. However i admit i cant just walk up to a girl n talk but if im spoken to im fine i dont stutter n sweat like others have issues with. Im popular and have a load of friends.

For example i really want too start MMA training but as its in a group and i ve never threw a punch in my life, i talk myself out of it because i dont want to look a prat. But i know deep down its something i would enjoy if i was comfortable enough doing it.

I wish i didnt care what others think or about looking stupid.

Same with a new job, i hate my job but i rarely look elsewhere as im 'comfortable' here and start thinking 'what if im crap at the new job'. I just day dream about other jobs im interested in.

I just cant get over this mental block of ever trying new things. Its a constant mind battle n i always play it safe and bottle it. I dont know if i have a medical condition or what but its getting me extremeley down lately.

I know i sound a bit (very) pathetic but any help would be appreciated.

 

[wifehunter]

Just keep moving forward in all aspects, eventually you'll get there.

Confidence is more to do with who you ARE, rather than what you DO.

 

[CBear]

Dont post often but i read alot on here. I need help/tips with confidence.

Long story short all my life i have suffered with self confidence. I used to be fat (not now) and i still worry how i look and avoid photos like the plague.

Its not with speaking to girls or making friends its more with taking on new challenges. However i admit i cant just walk up to a girl n talk but if im spoken to im fine i dont stutter n sweat like others have issues with. Im popular and have a load of friends.

For example i really want too start MMA training but as its in a group and i ve never threw a punch in my life, i talk myself out of it because i dont want to look a prat. But i know deep down its something i would enjoy if i was comfortable enough doing it.

I wish i didnt care what others think or about looking stupid.

Same with a new job, i hate my job but i rarely look elsewhere as im 'comfortable' here and start thinking 'what if im crap at the new job'. I just day dream about other jobs im interested in.

I just cant get over this mental block of ever trying new things. Its a constant mind battle n i always play it safe and bottle it. I dont know if i have a medical condition or what but its getting me extremeley down lately.

I know i sound a bit (very) pathetic but any help would be appreciated.

Used to be in a similar position. In high school, I was an extremely skinny, ugly duckling. Chicks weren't even an option.

After high school, I started focusing on looks and fashion the most. Today, I model and am a natural bodybuilder. Doing this opened up many opportunities socially and it's how I started getting better with social interactions so I'll always recommend doing this first. Focus on getting a better body, haircut, clothes if you don't already and you'll set up a fantastic base.

As for being afraid of doing something new, let's just say I decided to go into a career path that isn't really expected from a guy like me. People are in utter shock when they find this out, but I felt like trying it and most importantly sticking to it. Ended up getting a lot of benefits from it. Became great with interactions and I can honestly say that I developed an idgaf attitude as a result. + since I'm around chicks all the time, it has benefitted in that aspect as well. (They're still confusing as hell though, thats why I'm here xD)

Basically, you are ALMOST there, if you really feel like doing mma, DO IT. If you hate your job, look for other ones. My 2nd job I ever had was working in a nursing home. You really think I was super excited to do that? I was so nervous every single day I worked and I wanted to quit after a couple of weeks, but I didn't. It might be weird and really tough at first but you end up developing confidence from doing things like that which translate to other aspects of your life. You have to try and maintain a positive mindset as well.

 

[MisterMike]

Confidence comes with competence and time. You're not pathetic by any means OP, it's human nature to fear leaving your comfort zone. But you know what happens if you don't push yourself out of it? Nothing. Start with some hypnosis tapes and a beginner MMA class. Everyone looks like awful as newbie. I'm sorry for any overlap with above replies, just my 2 cents.

 

[Spaz]

Used to be in a similar position. In high school, I was an extremely skinny, ugly duckling. Chicks weren't even an option.

After high school, I started focusing on looks and fashion the most. Today, I model and am a natural bodybuilder. Doing this opened up many opportunities socially and it's how I started getting better with social interactions so I'll always recommend doing this first. Focus on getting a better body, haircut, clothes if you don't already and you'll set up a fantastic base.

As for being afraid of doing something new, let's just say I decided to go into a career path that isn't really expected from a guy like me. People are in utter shock when they find this out, but I felt like trying it and most importantly sticking to it. Ended up getting a lot of benefits from it. Became great with interactions and I can honestly say that I developed an idgaf attitude as a result. + since I'm around chicks all the time, it has benefitted in that aspect as well. (They're still confusing as hell though, thats why I'm here xD)

Basically, you are ALMOST there, if you really feel like doing mma, DO IT. If you hate your job, look for other ones. My 2nd job I ever had was working in a nursing home. You really think I was super excited to do that? I was so nervous every single day I worked and I wanted to quit after a couple of weeks, but I didn't. It might be weird and really tough at first but you end up developing confidence from doing things like that which translate to other aspects of your life. You have to try and maintain a positive mindset as well.

^Nicely done.

Start of with LMS and gradually pick up game.

@CBear got through it with sheer passion.

Passion + effectiveness will yield positive results.