"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Seen something that made me think about self esteem today

slitherjef

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At work today, saturday, the nice thing about working where I do is I do get to see many people (not to mention some hotties). Near the end of my shift I notice a guy walk in with a girl. Fairly hot in my mind and for of you who like the numbers, I would say, she was a 7, at the least. Short, blond, curvy. Nice package. The guy I noticed had a birthmark (I can only guess) on at least 40% of one half of his face. Obviously noticable. I continue my work, casualy paying attention to the couple, not because I am morbit, but because I wanted to see if they where together. I over hear something that suggested they where indeed together or dating.

This made me think. I have low self esteem mostly because I am out of shape. I am stuck in this cycle where I feel like crap because of this and so on.

But seeing this today, this guy was not fat, infact he looked pretty in shape. A lot of people with a birthmark like this would be very bothered. May not leave the house, resort to drugs or worse. This guy however chose not to let it bother him! It has (apparently) not stopped him getting a nice looking girl (BTW, they where probably around my age) or kept him from just sitting around in self pitty like some one else would.

This made me think, and hard. Here he was with a birthmark on his face, and that aint stopping him from living! Its not going to go away and this would have stopped many people from doing anything, but not him!

Here I set, yes, out of shape, not talking to hardly anyone because of being overweight by some pounds, that, by eating better and maybe hitting the gym or at least being more active may melt off some.

The difference between that fellow today and myself is, he chose to not let things get to him...

I did....

Ive sat around feeling sorry for myself, getting fat and feeling even more sorry for my self for something that I can change. This guy cant change that birthmark on his face, but I can trim off some pounds.

Seeing this today really made me think and I thought I would share
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KontrollerX

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Good post man.

You can follow KarmaSutra's lead anytime you want to and what I mean by that is Karma has saved his life quite literally by losing a ton of weight over the course of a few months.

He was a type II diabetic and I think he is either no longer one or drastically pulling away from that condition now thanks to his weight loss.

You can do this too.

Walking for 30 minutes to an hour or getting on the old stationary bike are great options to melt off the pounds.
 

ZenGodMod

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So glad to hear you've come to this realisation.

What will do next?

Realise this aswell. Birth mark is full of life, not only of his realisation, but he acted open it. That HB next to him didn't come from knowing he could do something. He acted on it!

Your turn!
 
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