"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Seems uninterested should I tell her dat I like her?

chicmagnet

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Hey!

She`s a friend of a friend of mine in college.I don`t see her much often.have taked to her a bit.Yesterday when she was leaving after college I told her that I wanted to talk to her tommorrow and she said ok.Now today, an hour before our exam( we`re having our exams) I asked her if I can talk to her.She said she has to study and said if it`s nothing important she`ll talk to me on monday.

Obviously she knows what I what to talk about, since I`m not really friends with her.She seems kinda disinterested. Should I still go up to her in monday and tell her that I like her? or should I just say that she seems disinterested and I wont want to talk to talk to someone who seems disinterested in what I have to say. And leave saying that you probably have to study;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am crying as I read this, contemplating my death.

You are in college, yet you can't type worth fu<k. 'dat' is not even a word. Sorry if it seems I am flaming you, but only because I am. Learn how to type, and you will go far.

You don't ever tell a chick you like her, if you don't even know her enough to know if you actually like her. It's not something we DJ's do. I mean if you want to be good friends with her, tell her you really like her, and you are guarenteed a spot in her trophy collection.

But if you want to be friends with her, then just mention that you like her as a friend, and proceed. But I assume you don't like her as a friend, because you want her.

Here's the link to a great site containing articles that really should serve you well.

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

You're welcome.
 

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Umm..agree on the typing bit,but that`s partly because english is not my mother tongue.I had been working on improving my writing skill but was slacking lately.O8aisaac your response will make me get right back on track.

I`m aware of the existence of the DJ bible and I have started reading it.But it`s going to take time, meanwhile what do I do? how do I cover up now? I guess I should have asked for an email or something.
 

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please, pleaseread the bible.
 

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Well rather than just talking to her somewhere, take her on a date. Take her to lunch then go for a walk or something, and don't tell her you like her.

Read as much as you can about attraction, ****y/funny, and the basics before you go, it really does help a lot.. And if you don't think you are ready, just put it off and say you are busy then try again when you've read a bit more. Or just do it anyway and get the experience from it with what you've learnt for when the next one comes along.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NO, YOU SHOULDN'T TELL HER!!!!


Play the game, you have to know how to be a DJ!
 

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Thanks for the reply guys!

Well, I think I shouldn`t approach her like I did today.We`ll bump into each other some time neway. And if she asks what I wanted to talk about, I`ll say since it`s her final year and we don`t get to see each other often I just though if we could hang out together more or something. How does this sound?

I got to do a lot of readin,I realize.
 

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Not sure.. I don't really like the sound of that. Maybe it would work to get the number (if you don't have it) to keep in contact after her year is over.

Be mysterious about it, sly grin and say something like 'don't worry' or 'maybe you'll find out sometime'.
 

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Feign slight interest in several girls. When girls see that other girls talk to you, it will show them that u are in demand and are approachable. This will build your confidence.

After enough of this, then approach the one you actually like.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do not admit blatantly right off that you like her. This will make you needy and unattractive. You need to make her need you.
 

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Originally posted by arutha

Be mysterious about it, sly grin and say something like 'don't worry' or 'maybe you'll find out sometime'.
Won`t that sound as if I got scared of a rejection from her, that now I refuse to tell her? Is there something I could say that shows that I`m slightly interested? because she does Know I`m interested in her.
 

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It depends completely on how you say it.. If you say it with complete confidence and in a mysterious way, then just keep chatting like nothing happened it will work. If you seem shy or unsure when you say it, then yes it will backfire.
 
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