Ive been chatting to this girl on a dating site for a few weeks. We agreed to meet last weekend but nothing was finalised and i was in a lazy mood so didnt pursue it. We talked again on wednesday and she seemed a bit upset so i apologised and we talked on the phone and had a nice conversation so I asked if she was free Thursday night and she said yes.
From the word go she was standing too close to me and finding excuses to touch me so I thought it was definitely on. We go to a bar and she tells me she gets drunk easily but insists on ordering a bottle of wine. After twenty minutes or so she apologetically checks her phone and admits she had her friends ready to give emergency calls and shows me their texts.
I suggest we move somewhere with sofas as we are perched on bar stools. We sit on a sofa and I put my arm around her which she likes. But she takes a phone call and i think she is a bit skittish because she lives an hour out of London and with the cold weather public transport is a bit of a mess. She is definitely a bit tipsy and she says her flatmates will be meeting her halfway.
Given this I offer to walk her to her bus-stop. She is walking a bit unstably which gives me an excuse to put my hand around her waist and hold her tight to stop her slipping. We walk to the bus stop and she says she is cold so I hug her and then kiss her. She does not resist but neither is she particularly enthusiastic and expresses concern that will i get back ok and she is fine and can wait for the bus on her own. I say i want to make sure she gets on the bus safely but she seems a bit relieved when her bus finally arrives.
We chatted a bit on skype this evening but she seemed a bit cold.
Do you think I put her off by coming on too strong? What is the best thing to do?
I was thinking of just leaving it a week and seeing if she starts chasing me. At the start of the evening she was putting on the moves and that reversed later on and maybe she is the type who prefers to be in control.
From the word go she was standing too close to me and finding excuses to touch me so I thought it was definitely on. We go to a bar and she tells me she gets drunk easily but insists on ordering a bottle of wine. After twenty minutes or so she apologetically checks her phone and admits she had her friends ready to give emergency calls and shows me their texts.
I suggest we move somewhere with sofas as we are perched on bar stools. We sit on a sofa and I put my arm around her which she likes. But she takes a phone call and i think she is a bit skittish because she lives an hour out of London and with the cold weather public transport is a bit of a mess. She is definitely a bit tipsy and she says her flatmates will be meeting her halfway.
Given this I offer to walk her to her bus-stop. She is walking a bit unstably which gives me an excuse to put my hand around her waist and hold her tight to stop her slipping. We walk to the bus stop and she says she is cold so I hug her and then kiss her. She does not resist but neither is she particularly enthusiastic and expresses concern that will i get back ok and she is fine and can wait for the bus on her own. I say i want to make sure she gets on the bus safely but she seems a bit relieved when her bus finally arrives.
We chatted a bit on skype this evening but she seemed a bit cold.
Do you think I put her off by coming on too strong? What is the best thing to do?
I was thinking of just leaving it a week and seeing if she starts chasing me. At the start of the evening she was putting on the moves and that reversed later on and maybe she is the type who prefers to be in control.