seemingly benign remarks that spark insecurity in females

[Chamber36]

I found these are key to getting a woman to recognize your value/that you have standards, but with me they usually come out inadvertently. Somehow these seemingly benign remarks hint at the females' inadequacy.

For example I'd just be asking questions about the girl concerning subjects that actually interest me, making the girl tell stories and sort of putting the girl on the spot and getting her to explain herself.

I found myself doing this naturally when my game was tight.

I haven't found myself doing this when I wasn't in *state* so I figured I might want to focus on it.

It also might have to do with having an abundance mindset.

It doesn't mean you dont care if you offend the girl. You'd be trying to ask a nice question but inadvertently hint at some inadequacy.

Mind-boggling stuff really, some cupids arrow kind of inception.

I am more able to articulate these thoughts now because I just finished reading a chapter 5: Create a Need - Stir Anxiety and Discontent.

I don't think it would have to be necessary for *every* seduction, but it will probably make it a bit smoother, if she has the confidence not to let it keep her down.

It might also have to do with Mystery's strategy of bringing a girl close to her tipping point, stirring the anxiety, quickly make up and then quickly turning that into sexual tension, just on a more subtle level.

How often do you guys apply this though, and what are your opinions on it? Do you these tactics naturally?

 

[Atom Smasher]

It's a good mindset to have. It's extremely important to "normalize" an interaction by creating anxiety, thereby removing her artificail perceived superiority (essentially, looks).

I thought you were going to give some examples, but it sounds like you're in the process of working this out in your mind. I think you're on the right track. Can you think of any examples to share?

 

[Chamber36]

I guess it's just part of the natural process of qualifying a girl. You can even do this with sexual innuendo.

For example I asked this girl if she would have time to shower before work the next day.(hinting that she had bad hygiene) Then I switched it up to showering drunk.
She already had high IL, I don't think I'd be able to pull it off otherwise.

It's basically a way of resetting the girls focus on her insecurities.
For example I asked a girl: "you're really high right now aren't you?", this totally took her out of the zone, she switched into qualifying mode, then recalibrated by talking to the guy next to her. She had some game.

It's like a more subtle form of the neg. It's meant to look like a positive statement. Underneath though their insecurities will boil up. Somehow you make them feel inadequate.

Also just asking: "where is your country located?" if she's from a remote country you never heard of, without showing disrespect of course, just genuine interest, and then asking details about the country. Ask her if the stereotypes are true and what-not. That way they might feel they have to prove something to you. Don't show ignorance when asking these questions though, just show some basic knowledge and ask them to fill in the gaps.

It's also fun to point out the differences between countries and laugh at that. Girls will often feel the need to qualify themselves to you for something as trivial as differences in culture. Whenever shedding insight on their culture from your foreign perspective, it'll be fun for her to see a new point of view.

Which is all us Don Juans are about, our own point of view. We basically concern ourselves with deciding how we see certain things in life. So we can show that to the girls and amaze them with some basic knowledge and a fresh perspective, making them feel inadequate, and getting them to qualify themselves all while impressing them and trying to come off as interested, empathic and genuine.

A person might try this on me by asking if everyone in holland wears cloggs. They might try to insinuate that I came from a regressive culture.