Thanks for giving me your time and I really have no other way to discuss with you a serious matter of my life. I live in Finland and this summer I met girl who is nurse by profession. She was v honest since the beginning and she told me that she has already a boyfriend and she is with him for the last 7 years. But from last 5 years the relationship is not working. I myself realized that she is not happy with that guy. But we started dating and meeting. During this time she started knowing me and I got the feeling that she likes me. Honestly speaking I fell in Love with her as well. We discuss a lot about each other mostly over phone.
According to her she was really facing difficult time with her current relationship, for example she told me that they do not do sex for even more than six months, she wants children and her guy doesn't want, in seven years he doesn't even asked her for getting marriage or something, despite all these problem, it is not easier for her to leave this guy, probably she is afraid or something.
In the beginning, we used to sent each other texts or calling every day or meeting each other at least twice a week, but almost 3 weeks ago she told me that she cannot concentrate on her current relationship because of me as I am in her mind all the time. As being honest with her I told her that she has to make her decision, it is not wise to waste her efforts to save her current relationship with a guy who is so different in many basic things what she wants in her life also she already spent 7 years so how more time he needs to understand her?
Anyways, I wrote her a letter and expressed my true feelings for her and I told her that I love her. She also told me that she likes me very very much but the only problem is that she is confused. She told me that she is going to meet psychiatrist and will take some advice. I told her that no one can told her anything especially these kind of things even psychiatrist, they will also tell her that she should find the solution herself, but she said this is her way and she needs opinion, so I said OK do it if you think it is necessary. After the psychiatrist she told me that no matter how much she likes me but at the moment her life is not with me and she wants to give a try to her current relationship. She has also some plan to move out of Finland with her boyfriend to another country just in order to see how things go on specially in there relationship.These days we are not in contact.
My friends tell me that she used me because in summer she was sad, depressed and alone so when she met me she was happy but weak also to make her decisions. One of my friend suggested me that I should secretly by using some other friend inform her boyfriend that what she had been doing behind his back not to take any revenge or something but because she always use to say that she is honest and she always asked me to be honest and I was so honest with her so according to her own definition that guy should also know about this.
But I cannot do this,even I have friends who can do this and this girl will never know who did this but I have never done this kind of thing in my life and also I do not want any problems for her because of me and also because I truly love her but one of my selfish and selfless side allows me to do that, in order to do the justice. I have so many questions to ask her and the most important one is ''WHY'' . Why she did this to me ? Why she showed me that beautiful dreams and than broke them, Our those stories what she told me keep on running in my head all the time. Despite I asked her in the beginning that we should not know each other this deep but she said YES she really wants to know me. She said she will never find someone like me and now she showed me her this colorless, cold and detached side. I blame myself also that even I knew that she is in a relation but I fell blindly, I could not stop myself, but it was not just me she wanted me to do that so. She has nothing to say except a word ''Sorry'' for me.
Anyways we have decided to see one more time in order to talk and to see each other. Tell me how should I end up with her I mean should I be nicer to her despite she kind of played with me and my feelings or should I still believe what ever she says that she had feelings for me or she just wants to give a try to her current relation or like other things she told me about her life. I am so confused please help me. What should I do?
According to her she was really facing difficult time with her current relationship, for example she told me that they do not do sex for even more than six months, she wants children and her guy doesn't want, in seven years he doesn't even asked her for getting marriage or something, despite all these problem, it is not easier for her to leave this guy, probably she is afraid or something.
In the beginning, we used to sent each other texts or calling every day or meeting each other at least twice a week, but almost 3 weeks ago she told me that she cannot concentrate on her current relationship because of me as I am in her mind all the time. As being honest with her I told her that she has to make her decision, it is not wise to waste her efforts to save her current relationship with a guy who is so different in many basic things what she wants in her life also she already spent 7 years so how more time he needs to understand her?
Anyways, I wrote her a letter and expressed my true feelings for her and I told her that I love her. She also told me that she likes me very very much but the only problem is that she is confused. She told me that she is going to meet psychiatrist and will take some advice. I told her that no one can told her anything especially these kind of things even psychiatrist, they will also tell her that she should find the solution herself, but she said this is her way and she needs opinion, so I said OK do it if you think it is necessary. After the psychiatrist she told me that no matter how much she likes me but at the moment her life is not with me and she wants to give a try to her current relationship. She has also some plan to move out of Finland with her boyfriend to another country just in order to see how things go on specially in there relationship.These days we are not in contact.
My friends tell me that she used me because in summer she was sad, depressed and alone so when she met me she was happy but weak also to make her decisions. One of my friend suggested me that I should secretly by using some other friend inform her boyfriend that what she had been doing behind his back not to take any revenge or something but because she always use to say that she is honest and she always asked me to be honest and I was so honest with her so according to her own definition that guy should also know about this.
But I cannot do this,even I have friends who can do this and this girl will never know who did this but I have never done this kind of thing in my life and also I do not want any problems for her because of me and also because I truly love her but one of my selfish and selfless side allows me to do that, in order to do the justice. I have so many questions to ask her and the most important one is ''WHY'' . Why she did this to me ? Why she showed me that beautiful dreams and than broke them, Our those stories what she told me keep on running in my head all the time. Despite I asked her in the beginning that we should not know each other this deep but she said YES she really wants to know me. She said she will never find someone like me and now she showed me her this colorless, cold and detached side. I blame myself also that even I knew that she is in a relation but I fell blindly, I could not stop myself, but it was not just me she wanted me to do that so. She has nothing to say except a word ''Sorry'' for me.
Anyways we have decided to see one more time in order to talk and to see each other. Tell me how should I end up with her I mean should I be nicer to her despite she kind of played with me and my feelings or should I still believe what ever she says that she had feelings for me or she just wants to give a try to her current relation or like other things she told me about her life. I am so confused please help me. What should I do?