"Seeking Alpha Male, if you don't know what that is..."

[ThisNThat]

Saw this profile of a woman online, OK Cupid and she said that she is "looking for an alpha male, and if you don't know what that is...we wouldn't make a good match."

I found this to be an odd request, because to me...she lives in a back water town and is a nurse. She doesn't look like a woman of high status and quite average looking, moderately cute at best...so I wonder in what context does she mean "alpha". Does she even know what it means herself?

I've seen articles that read about "the myth of the alpha male" as there is no such thing and that there's too many dynamics to male masculinity for a human being to be compared to an animal.

If she is looking for a man of high social status, she won't find it in this town. If it's not status, then it's just dominance and control over her?

I usually cringe when I hear it and think mountain gorillas...aka. for men = knuckle draggers. lol

I mean, as a woman you can't say, "I'm looking for an Alpha" and have someone challenge her on what she means by it...as it IS debatable, is it not?

 

[bigneil]

All women deserve the alpha male because they are all the best.

 

[zekko]

I would be curious to know what she meant by that, because "alpha male" is the type of term that people tend to have their own definitions of, and bring their own preconceptions to. I doubt that she has even given much thought to what an alpha male really is.

However, I would take any woman expressing that she wants an alpha male as a massive red flag.

At best, it may be a code word for saying she just wants sex with no strings attached.

 

[sazc]

she's probably running in to the equivalent men that tenacity is running in to, in terms of females, on OLD, and she's sick of losers.

Lol, to be honest, the myth is that you want an alpha male. Once you get an alpha male, you may be sorry you asked for one....

 

[narcissist]

All women deserve the alpha male because they are all the best.

All women? No. Some women genuinely don't deserve the best.

 

[icantgetlaid]

When this topic has come up with girls I've met, the common interpretation of an alpha male in the eyes of a female is a guy that takes control, leads, and is confident.

 

[bigneil]

All women? No. Some women genuinely don't deserve the best.

I was being sarcastic. But Feminists do indeed claim all women are above average.

 

[bigneil]

When this topic has come up with girls I've met, the common interpretation of an alpha male in the eyes of a female is a guy that takes control, leads, and is confident.

Alpha means the best available. Top dog. A #1. There is only one for a given group. Such an overused term I called for a Moratorium years ago.

 

[Urbanyst]

A lot of women online suffer from mental illnesses and other problems.

 

[zekko]

Alpha means the best available. Top dog. A #1. There is only one for a given group

Generally speaking, I agree. I know you like the Beatles though. Wouldn't you say the Beatles had two alpha males (Lennon and McCartney)? Which was the reason they were so good - most bands only had one leader.

You might say that only one could assume the alpha position at any one time -John early on, then later Paul.

I could see situations where a few alpha males hung out together, kind of like Arthur and Lancelot. But you don't gather a bunch of PUAs and say you have a bar full of alphas lol.

 

[ubercat]

It's contextual anyway. If she s a gold digger the alpha at the gym is the owner. If she s a chicken head gym rat it might b a ripped but broke AZZ PT