"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Seeing one of your plates on Tinder

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Been banging plate for a couple months on and off. Claims that "I'm the only one she's doing this with" and always says she's not the kind of girl to be on Tinder. Open up Tinder this morning and she pops up. Obviously we're not exclusive but it was kind of off-putting. Thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LMFAO

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She's your plate not your girlfriend. Continue banging her and stop giving a fvck.
 

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Notice all the Tinder threads with guys saying girls are just using Tinder for attention-wh0ring and not actual hookups. That may be the case with her. If every girl on Tinder was a wh0re, every guy would be on Tinder :)
 

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clicheusername20 said:
Been banging plate for a couple months on and off. Claims that "I'm the only one she's doing this with" and always says she's not the kind of girl to be on Tinder. Open up Tinder this morning and she pops up. Obviously we're not exclusive but it was kind of off-putting. Thoughts?
I would have taken a screen shot and sent it to her with "lol somebody's using your identity to pick up guys" and then proceeded to scratch her off my potential exclusive girlfriend list
 

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I thought plates were just women you were just banging without a relationship.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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clicheusername20 said:
Been banging plate for a couple months on and off. Claims that "I'm the only one she's doing this with" and always says she's not the kind of girl to be on Tinder. Open up Tinder this morning and she pops up. Obviously we're not exclusive but it was kind of off-putting. Thoughts?
Do you always believe everything a girl tells you? :crackup:

Huge tip: If a girls tells you: "you're the only one"....."you're the first"...."I've never done that before with another guy"....it's usually the opposite of what she is saying.

You can't control your plates and you shouldn't want to. Use plates for sex and nothing more. Don't worry about her on Tinder. Get new plates to smash and wrap up when you bang her.
 

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clicheusername20 said:
Been banging plate for a couple months on and off. Claims that "I'm the only one she's doing this with" and always says she's not the kind of girl to be on Tinder. Open up Tinder this morning and she pops up. Obviously we're not exclusive but it was kind of off-putting. Thoughts?
I've been seeing someone for a while and just use tinder to pass the time and browse. I don't try to meet anyone.

If you're not exclusive..shrug it off and enjoy the sex.
 

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Agree with BetweenTheLines on the screen shot thing and the identity comment.

Could also take the screenshot and send it to her and ask her how many guys from Tinder she has b@nged this week. And tell her you have only railed two other chicks besides her and are bummed because it's been a slow week for you .
 

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logicallefty said:
Agree with BetweenTheLines on the screen shot thing and the identity comment.

Could also take the screenshot and send it to her and ask her how many guys from Tinder she has b@nged this week. And tell her you have only railed two other chicks besides her and are bummed because it's been a slow week for you .
Lol. That's some funny a$$ sh!t.
 

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Yeah, umm..if you're phucking 5 people, she's phucking 10, just assume that and be happy. As long as Tinder exists, wh0res will be a-wh0rin!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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logicallefty said:
Agree with BetweenTheLines on the screen shot thing and the identity comment.

Could also take the screenshot and send it to her and ask her how many guys from Tinder she has b@nged this week. And tell her you have only railed two other chicks besides her and are bummed because it's been a slow week for you .
What's the point of doing that? A plate shoudn't require that effort. Seriously, who cares.
 

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What's the point of doing that? A plate shoudn't require that effort. Seriously, who cares.
because it would be funny as fvck and take 5 seconds to do
 

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Most men will consider Tinder as a tool to find FBs or plates. Many women, however, look at it as a branch of OLD that may help them find Prince Charming. Keep in mind how uneasy and uptight many of them are about standard OLD ("I am just trying this for once, of course it won't work blah blah blah").
So the OP's plate may be on the lookout for the LTR, which makes sense considering her status with OP. It does not strictly make sense to do this on Tinder, but who are we to judge women's behavior :-D
 

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clicheusername20 said:
Been banging plate for a couple months on and off. Claims that "I'm the only one she's doing this with" and always says she's not the kind of girl to be on Tinder. Open up Tinder this morning and she pops up. Obviously we're not exclusive but it was kind of off-putting. Thoughts?
As was said, if she's a plate, and you are not exclusive, why do you care? Looks like you are falling in love with this girl. :flowers:
 

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dutchmaster said:
because it would be funny as fvck and take 5 seconds to do
That's great if he's looking for laughs. But perhaps not as great if he's looking to keep her around as a plate. Guess it depends on his priorities.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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update: went AFC and said I wouldn't be around anymore if she has a tinder. She apologized for making one and said she would delete it immediately and invited me over
 

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clicheusername20 said:
update: went AFC and said I wouldn't be around anymore if she has a tinder. She apologized for making one and said she would delete it immediately and invited me over
Either you got a plate with some decency here, OR, she moved her AWing queendom to either PoF, Match, Cupid, Eharmony, Zoosk, Adultfriendfinder, etc. to get her fix, and thinks you are too big of a fool to find it.
 

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Op... Don't expect her to be a plate for long. If I'm not exclusive with a girl, no way in hell is she gonna keep me from testing my options by giving my ultimatums.

Either you're gonna go exclusive with this girl or end up losing her within a month. All in all, if you didn't wanna be exclusive you shouldn't have opened your mouth and made it sound like you were catching feelings.
 

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She's clearly more than a plate to you. Thing is, you gotta treat her like she isn't if you want her to become more than a plate to you.

You know in your gut the moment you saw her profile, if you didn't care you'd shrug and laugh.
 

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Any girl on Tinder you have to assume is getting fvcked left, right and centre.

You're just the left, two other guys on the right and centre. :yes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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