Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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seeing girls at work

chalk

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A definate DJ no-no, but I decided to do it anyway. I work in a small office so as im typing this i can see the other 8 people including the rather cute girl i keep sneaking off to the file room with.

It's pretty exciting at the moment because it's new and keeping it a secret at work is almost impossible.

I wanna hear everyones experiences with girls at work, how it started, what happened and any ideas at all really.

The main thing i'm worried about is that i'm not in control of when i see her, normally i'd see a girl 2-3 times a week. Cant do that here so i'm selectivley ignoring her instead. Even if it ****s up i don't care, i couldn't resist the experience :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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chalk

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i guess nobodys dated a girl at work then huh? I'll let you know how it goes.
 

strong like bull

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ive found myself in the same situation. twice. couldnt, or rather didnt want, to resist the experience.

all in all, id say that it would be best in the longrun to NOT date co-workers. even at casual jobs like mine - laid back restaurant - the cons of co-worker dating pop up all the time. its great at the start, but eventually i get tired of seeing them too much. when/if emotion gets involved in the relationship, youll start to lose focus on your job. youll be distracted by her and the relationship.

then of course if/when things so sour, you have to interact with this person on a regular basis. would that bother you?

in most peoples experiences, the bottom line is that there are so many women out there. so many incredible girls, that risking this much trouble at your JOB is not worth it. the potential cons outweigh the potential pros.

nevertheless, i went against this "rule" knowing full well the possible consequences. but im stubborn like that. do as you wish.

also, for TONS more info on this do a search on the forum.

-SLB
 
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A definate DJ no-no, but I decided to do it anyway.

Gawd I hate when the newbs add:

"BUT"

As if this justifies breaking the rules just for them.

I can't wait to here about when he posts his:


"I've learned MY Lesson" post.
 

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you tell your kids not to put their hand on the hot stove, some will listen, some have to learn the hard way.... good luck
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I saw a woman from my work for 6 months. We got on great. Eventually, we ended it because she is a LOT older than me, and we knew we wanted different things and it could go no further. After this, because there were never any negative feelings between us, we have remained friends. At the moment it's very nice to have a good friend that you've been through a lot together, at work - we still get on really well.

But I suppose it would be different if there's the possibility of a future with a girl. Plus, if you're not the type who can remain friends after a relationship is over, then it will be hell after this.
Also, even in my situation, the initial period after break-up was so tough - seeing her everyday wasn't the best thing to get over her!!

hope this helps
 
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