Seeing a Girl for a few months, found out she has a bf wtf!

[mtlwlu]

So Ive been seeing this girl for a few months, dates every now and again good signals, etc...
anyways, I ran into a mutual friend of hers and I and we started talking about her, and then she told me that the girl I was seeing had a boyfriend ever since the summer time (I moved back home for the summer and maybe saw her 4 times in the summer)
Anyways, why the hell wouldnt she tell me she had a boyfriend, instead of me wasting my time and energy on her?

 

[Desdinova]

If there's one thing I've learned, its don't give or get information from a third party. Its either a pile of ****, or the person is a 'spy' who is gathering information from you.

Also, if you're not exclusive with her, why should you give a ****? She's not your girlfriend, so she is free to date whomever she wants.

 

[mtlwlu]

even if Im not in a relationship, she IS, its just polite to tell me so I dont waste money time and effort on her, thinking we could potentially have one.

 

[amoka]

even if Im not in a relationship, she IS, its just polite to tell me so I dont waste money time and effort on her, thinking we could potentially have one.

Haha... you're probably guy #5 on her list.

 

[trent81]

Welcome to dating.......

 

[mtlwlu]

Jay Z had it right ...99 problems but a B**** aint one.

 

[Poonani Maker]

You should constantly be checking her for Disinterest within the first 2 months. Your detector is Off. That way you won't waste time like you just wasted.

 

[horaholic]

you say you're 'seeing' this chick. That means you are fvcking her, or are at least making out, and just haven't fvcked yet, and what not, yet you claim all you're doing is 'dates now and then.' You aren't 'seeing' this girl, you are just her friend. until you've acted on those signals, you're just friends. When I read the title, I was under the impression that you'd been banging this girl for a few months, and found out she really had a BF. Granted, its pretty lame that she never mentioned her BF this whole time, you can't go claiming that you're 'seeing' her.

 

[Nutz]

So Ive been seeing this girl for a few months, dates every now and again good signals, etc...
anyways, I ran into a mutual friend of hers and I and we started talking about her, and then she told me that the girl I was seeing had a boyfriend ever since the summer time (I moved back home for the summer and maybe saw her 4 times in the summer)
Anyways, why the hell wouldnt she tell me she had a boyfriend, instead of me wasting my time and energy on her?

Well, I hate to break it to you but it's very likely you're not actually seeing this girl. The other posters are right. It's been 4 months and you haven't had sex? Really? My take on it is that you're just her new guy friend she's leading on, and are most likely one of many. I guarantee you if you keep silent about finding out about the bf and then try to sexually escalate you'll likely get the LJBF talk. Then there's still the possibility the bf was bunk and the friend was wrong. However, the other stuff I wrote is still probably correct bf or not.

 

[thedarkpassenger]

If there's anything I've learned, it's that women like this are DANGEROUS! She is USING you to get the attention and admiration she's NOT getting from her boyfriend. Women are very selfish creatures, subconsciously. Stay away from her, and let her chase you. If she wants you so bad, let her leave her BF. Otherwise, don't pursue her, don't call her. Because when she's bored of you, or her BF starts treating her better, she's going to drop you faster than Britney Spears drops her baby. Leave!

 

[sodbuster]

She may be looking for a new branch to swing to-you are auditioning for the position,but why? IF she has a BF do you want a woman pulling that on you later? If no BF,the mutual friend may be trying to start some drauma[how well do you know her,what is her credibililty?] I guess,ask her and find out.