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Rubato
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If anyone out there has been paying attention, I've been gone.
And it's been great.
Remember from Pook's 15 lessons, that guy Manual? And the people who wouldn't leave him alone? If you don't, go back and read that! I'm sick of going to see that man!
I gave up leisure media for a week and haven't really gone back. There are so many better things to do. In that time, I wasn't posting on this website, asking questions about what to do in situation X to get Y outcome. I had to... and this is deep.... figure it out myself! Using a lot of the knowledge I have obtained from this site, of course. But I took myself off the leash. And I made it. You can too.
It really call just comes down to a few basic points.
-Figure out your spirituality.
-You're a man. Realize it, accept it, learn what it means, and be. If
you can't do this, quit now.
-Recognize your self worth, set personal boundaries/rules for all of your relationships and don't break them for anyone.
-Establish a set of ethics and live by them daily. Do not compromise them for anyone or anything.
-Figure out your life's purpose and seek after it with all your heart. Realize your true priorities and do not rearrange them. For me (and I think this may be universal), it goes:
God
Self-preservation interests - Your self esteem, mental health, path, things you legitimately NEED
Important others - Family, close friends
Your leisure interests - The things you do not legitimately need like hobbies and personal interests.
All others - This includes women you do not have a strong bond with. Sex does not equal a strong bond. Only time gives her the ability to prove herself to you.
-Take ACTION!!!!!. This cannot be overstated. Forget about what everyone says, including the people here. In order to grow, you have to act. Unless what you are planning on doing can get you arrested, estrange you from a close family member or friend, or violate your personal ethics/rules/boundaries, then turn off your computer... break it if you have to... and go out and ACT!!!!!!! The reason so many people on this board never get any better is because they DO NOT ACT! Embrace failure! It will be your truest signpost to future success!
-By virtue of all of the above, you should be becoming physically and financially fit.
-If you do not have a life by this point, you have not applied the above correctly and have failed. You will probably never supersede mediocrity.
-She's a woman. Realize it, accept it, learn what it means. And if you're intimidated by it or not secure with you, you screwed up the very first point.
That's what I've learned and I think any question except for maybe the most bizarre can be answered according to that list.
And with that, as the title of the post says, I'll see you later. I've got bigger fish to fry. I may come back from time to time, but Life is calling and I can't turn her down!
And it's been great.
Remember from Pook's 15 lessons, that guy Manual? And the people who wouldn't leave him alone? If you don't, go back and read that! I'm sick of going to see that man!
I gave up leisure media for a week and haven't really gone back. There are so many better things to do. In that time, I wasn't posting on this website, asking questions about what to do in situation X to get Y outcome. I had to... and this is deep.... figure it out myself! Using a lot of the knowledge I have obtained from this site, of course. But I took myself off the leash. And I made it. You can too.
It really call just comes down to a few basic points.
-Figure out your spirituality.
-You're a man. Realize it, accept it, learn what it means, and be. If
you can't do this, quit now.
-Recognize your self worth, set personal boundaries/rules for all of your relationships and don't break them for anyone.
-Establish a set of ethics and live by them daily. Do not compromise them for anyone or anything.
-Figure out your life's purpose and seek after it with all your heart. Realize your true priorities and do not rearrange them. For me (and I think this may be universal), it goes:
God
Self-preservation interests - Your self esteem, mental health, path, things you legitimately NEED
Important others - Family, close friends
Your leisure interests - The things you do not legitimately need like hobbies and personal interests.
All others - This includes women you do not have a strong bond with. Sex does not equal a strong bond. Only time gives her the ability to prove herself to you.
-Take ACTION!!!!!. This cannot be overstated. Forget about what everyone says, including the people here. In order to grow, you have to act. Unless what you are planning on doing can get you arrested, estrange you from a close family member or friend, or violate your personal ethics/rules/boundaries, then turn off your computer... break it if you have to... and go out and ACT!!!!!!! The reason so many people on this board never get any better is because they DO NOT ACT! Embrace failure! It will be your truest signpost to future success!
-By virtue of all of the above, you should be becoming physically and financially fit.
-If you do not have a life by this point, you have not applied the above correctly and have failed. You will probably never supersede mediocrity.
-She's a woman. Realize it, accept it, learn what it means. And if you're intimidated by it or not secure with you, you screwed up the very first point.
That's what I've learned and I think any question except for maybe the most bizarre can be answered according to that list.
And with that, as the title of the post says, I'll see you later. I've got bigger fish to fry. I may come back from time to time, but Life is calling and I can't turn her down!
