I'm incredibly excited about a realization that hit me earlier tonight as i was walking through Eatons. It is something that i've been slowly putting together piece by piece over the last year or so. Sometimes i had it pinned down, other times i completely lost track of it. I could never really hold on to it because i didn't really know what it was. All i saw were bits and pieces of it and not the whole picture. Tonight, the whole thing finally hit me.
This realization can be summed up in a single sentence, as like all great things, its incredibly simple: "see what you love about your past girlfriends in HER!" When you see a girl you like, tell her "i love you" (or if you prefer, "i like you) in your own head. Then immediately remember all the good times you ever had with girls. Kissing them, cuddling with them, laughing with them, ****ing them. Whatever pops into your head.
Use that imagery and the feelings it stirs up to put yourself into that state that you're in when you're having an absolutely fantastic time with a girl you really like. For me, its the 'loving / playful / humorous' state. Everyone's got their own style, so just go with whatever feels right. The important thing is that when you approach a new girl, you should make yourself feel the way you did when you were having an amazing time with another girl.
And that's it. The concept may have taken a few paragraphs to outline, but once you grasp it, it'll become something you execute in only a second or two. And the effect truly is powerful! Once you're in that state, things like bedroom eyes, assumption of attraction, etc come absolutely naturally because they're just part of that state. This will immediately create a feeling of comfort, trust and attraction between you and the girl you just met, instantly make the two of you feel closer to eachother, and make both of you visualize being with eachother. The rest is cake.
This realization can be summed up in a single sentence, as like all great things, its incredibly simple: "see what you love about your past girlfriends in HER!" When you see a girl you like, tell her "i love you" (or if you prefer, "i like you) in your own head. Then immediately remember all the good times you ever had with girls. Kissing them, cuddling with them, laughing with them, ****ing them. Whatever pops into your head.
Use that imagery and the feelings it stirs up to put yourself into that state that you're in when you're having an absolutely fantastic time with a girl you really like. For me, its the 'loving / playful / humorous' state. Everyone's got their own style, so just go with whatever feels right. The important thing is that when you approach a new girl, you should make yourself feel the way you did when you were having an amazing time with another girl.
And that's it. The concept may have taken a few paragraphs to outline, but once you grasp it, it'll become something you execute in only a second or two. And the effect truly is powerful! Once you're in that state, things like bedroom eyes, assumption of attraction, etc come absolutely naturally because they're just part of that state. This will immediately create a feeling of comfort, trust and attraction between you and the girl you just met, instantly make the two of you feel closer to eachother, and make both of you visualize being with eachother. The rest is cake.