See the bright side of things.

[PRMoon]

I always read threads about "what do I do now?" or "I messed up where to from here?" etc etc. I think alot of people on here are likely better players then they give themselves credit for but get shaken too easily. When you get into a sticky situation or you've messed up somewhere along the line, try to realize you're probobly not that bad off. Just think about a good salvage plan for whatever wreck you've created and work your way up. Small steps big steps, it doesn't matter, you can get yourself out of or around anything if you just take some time to think things over for yourself. You're smart you're a player, you've got all the tips and tactics in the world at your disposal. More often then not the awnser to your question or the inspired thought of action is probobly staring you right in the face.

Think, plan, act. It's a very simple process.

 

[Poll]

Think, plan, act. It's a very simple process.

:nono: the best way is act, think, masterbate.. (planning is a waste of time)

 

[PRMoon]

:nono: the best way is act, think, masterbate.. (planning is a waste of time)

Quite the contuary. Good planning is everything. Strategy is the only way to win the prolonged battle of minds that is the dating process.

No I'm not saying whip out your note pad and make super long term goals (although writing down what you want does force you to ask if this is what you really want and if it's worth the effort) but make small plans of contact and interaction. Obviously there are some advanced parts of it that many people won't be able to pull off, but you want to make basic plans and bases and adapt them as necessary and make it a step by step process. That's how to win any campaign.

I'm going to say it again because it was his birthday not to long ago.

"If I had six hours to cut down a tree I'd spend five sharpening my axe"
-Abraham Lincoln

 

[Thomas94305]

Agree with PRMoon...

1) Been hanging into sarges longer when something "goes bad". I might trip up, and say an awkward thing. The convo might feel boring on my side. I'll tell myself to just relax. The bad thing just blows over, and the sarge continues. Got a # close yesterday, out of a sarge I stayed in, although it seemed "boring" to me for a time. She warmed up quite a bit after I asked for the number.

2) I've been lamenting how it's still hard to get dating going. Moving from a first convo to going out doesn't happen regularly for me. I figured on average how many convos I have to do in a week to get a couple dating candidates a month... kill me for doing the math, whatever. Anyhow, my perspective's changed. Now, I'm rewarding myself for the things I can control.. initiating the convos, asking for the number, those are the things I DO control. I find I'm opening a lot more, about twice as often. Just out of sheer numbers, this is my own "double your dating" program. And, just out of sheer numbers, I'll get better, and so convos will lead to closing, dates a higher percentage of the time.

 

[PRMoon]

I'm pulling this, and maybe one more, out of the attic.