See ex at gym/etc, ignore or what?

[SmoothTalker]

Hey guys,

So I've been trying to go no contact on my ex, mostly to help myself get over her. Generally been pretty good though a few days ago I sent a few drunk texts (no calling at least), but they weren't anything mushy, just commenting on a club I was at with some friends.

But we live in a somewhat small town and will no doubt bump into each other at the shopping mall or gym, movies, etc.

How do you react in that case? Keep ignoring them? Be really great and show what they're missing? Just say hi if they do but show no interest?

Advice welcome.

PS: At the club I approached a cute chick, hb7.5 maybe, which was actually amazingly easy seeing as it's been years since I was in the game. Anyway, that didn't end up going anywhere because her **** blocking friends showed up and we had to leave anyway, but I was just wondering if any of these were IOI's like they seemed at the time, or was I just doing some drunk wishful thinking?

-She smiled when I sat down and leaned in to talk. Now leaning in was necessary because it was so loud, but she stayed very close even when we weren't talking.

-She said she was surprised to see me as I could probably make out with any chick on the dance floor. Is this her way of saying she thinks I"m attractive or her trying to get me to go elsewhere? In my drunken stupor I thought I good line would have been, "You're not on the dance floor but are you in that list?" but I decided not to go with that.

Anyway regardless of me not getting anywhere, it was definitely nice to remember that I can approach random girls and have decent conversations.

 

[collalife]

i think when you see the ex, you say hi how you doing and give them a honest smile.
it demostrates:
1) im a happy guy without you
2) no hard feelings
3) it gives a air of mystery.what have you been up 2 to be so happy
on the girl in the club thing:
she was interested if she held the leaning about 3-6 inches from you and if she gave that comment, she obviously found you attractive and thinks your hot stuff and sort of dlved herself. she thought she wasnt the type you should go for, since you had the "hot" status.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Hmm, yeah it was closer than 6 inches. Lol guess I give myself less credit than I deserve.

Good idea on the ex thing. I'm not even trying to get her back, but a nice, "haha you're missing out, and I'm way happier" when it's genuine, would feel so damn good.

 

[WC2]

i think when you see the ex, you say hi how you doing and give them a honest smile.
it demostrates:
1) im a happy guy without you
2) no hard feelings
3) it gives a air of mystery.what have you been up 2 to be so happy
on the girl in the club thing:
she was interested if she held the leaning about 3-6 inches from you and if she gave that comment, she obviously found you attractive and thinks your hot stuff and sort of dlved herself. she thought she wasnt the type you should go for, since you had the "hot" status.

Agreed. Some guys take "no contact" to another level in which their actions are obvious to who they are not contacting. The goal isn't to ignore, but to move on and not contact her so you can start making progress on other things/women. Obviously if you see her somewhere the right thing to do is to say hi, how are you, etc. The wrong thing to do would be to ignore her or make an offer to see her again. You don't need to see her anymore. You're over her.