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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Seducing a girl taller then you?

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Ive had this happen a couple of times, I walked up to them very confidently with a smile and said something to show I was interested and then rest fell in place. EX-If im sitting next to a girl and we both stand up and shes taller then me I get a bit intimated and not sure how to act to show her im intrested.
Any ideas...? (Im 5'5)

Crissco
 

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She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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hmmm u should have that much problems thers heaps of girls shorter than 5,5

just do it like you would do it with any girl or wear high heels :D
 

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BananaSmile said:
hmmm u should have that much problems thers heaps of girls shorter than 5,5

just do it like you would do it with any girl or wear high heels :D
Bro! High heels? Are you f*kin kiddin me? I love those things!!! haha. Honestly tho bro I like a challenge, girls who are bit taller then me are a bit more of a challenge, plus its what I grew up around, and even tho it was never really a problem, the fact most of my family is over 6'0, gotta keep up.
 

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Yea dude, at 5'5" you still have easy access to some of the hottest girls (in my opinion) who are 5'5" to about 5'2".

I'm going to give you some cheesy sales/marketing advice here, but it applies. You should just assume the sale in these situations. You should do absolutely nothing different from a normal pickup attempt, other than you MIGHT (depending on confidence level/ability to pull this off) want to tease her about her height a little. Only if you can find a genuinely C+F way of doing so without communicating lower value.

I have dated taller girls and see girls with shorter guys fairly regularly. With this in mind, you really should not allow yourself to have any self-limiting beliefs when approaching a taller woman, it's just another sarge.
 

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If you two are sitting down and you both stand up and she's taller than you (especially by a noticeable degree), I'd say something like, "You know, if you want me to look at your boobs, there are less obvious ways than by putting them directly at eye level."
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
If you two are sitting down and you both stand up and she's taller than you (especially by a noticeable degree), I'd say something like, "You know, if you want me to look at your boobs, there are less obvious ways than by putting them directly at eye level."
LOL Im gonna use that one bro.

thecurtainfalls said:
Yea dude, at 5'5" you still have easy access to some of the hottest girls (in my opinion) who are 5'5" to about 5'2".

I'm going to give you some cheesy sales/marketing advice here, but it applies. You should just assume the sale in these situations. You should do absolutely nothing different from a normal pickup attempt, other than you MIGHT (depending on confidence level/ability to pull this off) want to tease her about her height a little. Only if you can find a genuinely C+F way of doing so without communicating lower value.

I have dated taller girls and see girls with shorter guys fairly regularly. With this in mind, you really should not allow yourself to have any self-limiting beliefs when approaching a taller woman, it's just another sarge.
You know whats funny bro, Ive been looking into a sales job recently, funny that you mention that. The only thing that gets me is when I look at a girl with the I want to fvck you eyes its a lot easier when the girls are shorter...Ive made taller girls feel like there little kids but never really "seduced" them. hmm guess i got a bit of a challenge on my hands :D
 

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I'm a few inches taller than you (5'8") but have got a few taller girls (ranging from 5'10" to 6'2").

#1 rule: do not make height an issue.

That means you don't even joke about it.

Humour is our psychological defense against things we are intimidated by. Joking about height - even if it's meant to show that you're cool with the difference - is a dead giveaway that you're trying too hard. Tall girls will subconsciously pick up on that. Don't you think that they've never had short guys saying similar crap to them before?

Just act like you don't even notice the height difference, and eventually you will internalise it.

Although obviously there are certain considerations when you go for a kiss. Sitting down on a lounge is the best. Last time I sat on a high bar stool while she was standing next to me.
 

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You need to show them that they don't intimidate you. Most AFC guys will be timid around taller girls. I don't know if it's b/c they're insecure about their height, or they worry if she can kick their a$$es. If you show no fear, you'll have an easier time with them.
 

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old married dude said:
You need to show them that they don't intimidate you. Most AFC guys will be timid around taller girls. I don't know if it's b/c they're insecure about their height, or they worry if she can kick their a$$es. If you show no fear, you'll have an easier time with them.
Thank You bro. Guess it just takes sometime getting used to. Ive also had girls say to me that there insecure about there height bc im shorter then them, and that because there a bit bigger then me they feel fat.
 
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