jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
What matters most in life, and especially in relationships, is the feeling of trust that comes from being with a partner who provides secure attachment.
This explains why people in committed relationships or marriages often report greater happiness and life satisfaction. (There are many studies on this, not specifically about marriage, but comparing people in good relationships vs. those who are single.)
seduction forums, including Sosuave, teach many useful things about masculinity and building a man’s life. But what about relationships? The main content you often find is about creating insecure relationships, using strategies or attitudes to make a woman feel uncertain, under the belief that this insecurity will keep her attached and working harder for love. Nothing more true.
With 8 billion people in the world, those tactics do “work” with certain women, particularly insecure ones, who thrive in unstable relationships.
It also requires constant effort on the man’s part, doing things “every now and then” to make her doubt, feel insecure, or work harder for the relationship.
Everyone here comes from a different background and shares advice. There may be a single man with success who tells his stories. Or an ordinary man like me. Or a divorced man who has seen many “faces” of women, and life.
In the end, it’s simple: either you want to build a secure bond or an insecure one.
Books like this one:
https://www.amazon.it/We-Do-Relationship-Connection-Enduring/dp/1622038932
(I don't marry the Gottmantheory, but there is still truth to that)
(There are many others book about the topic)
..show how the old idea of “socioeconomic marriage” has shifted over the years into what’s called a “compassionate marriage.” The first type will always exist, and insecure attachment works best there.
But if your goal is to grow and become a better MAN in the future, then a compassionate relationship is what you truly want.
I’ve always firmly believed that the advice on Sosuave has gold-like value, especially for building a man’s life. But being alone, or acting “cold” just to demand respect from others, won’t make you as happy as you think. Many men here can prove happines that comes from a secure relationship is not the one it comes when you have multiple ONS.
You still need the warmth that comes from a hug, a kiss, or the words of someone you trust, someone with whom you play no games, and build life and things togheter. This is what a single man can't understand until he's in it and experiences these things.
This explains why people in committed relationships or marriages often report greater happiness and life satisfaction. (There are many studies on this, not specifically about marriage, but comparing people in good relationships vs. those who are single.)
seduction forums, including Sosuave, teach many useful things about masculinity and building a man’s life. But what about relationships? The main content you often find is about creating insecure relationships, using strategies or attitudes to make a woman feel uncertain, under the belief that this insecurity will keep her attached and working harder for love. Nothing more true.
With 8 billion people in the world, those tactics do “work” with certain women, particularly insecure ones, who thrive in unstable relationships.
It also requires constant effort on the man’s part, doing things “every now and then” to make her doubt, feel insecure, or work harder for the relationship.
Everyone here comes from a different background and shares advice. There may be a single man with success who tells his stories. Or an ordinary man like me. Or a divorced man who has seen many “faces” of women, and life.
In the end, it’s simple: either you want to build a secure bond or an insecure one.
Books like this one:
https://www.amazon.it/We-Do-Relationship-Connection-Enduring/dp/1622038932
(I don't marry the Gottmantheory, but there is still truth to that)
(There are many others book about the topic)
..show how the old idea of “socioeconomic marriage” has shifted over the years into what’s called a “compassionate marriage.” The first type will always exist, and insecure attachment works best there.
But if your goal is to grow and become a better MAN in the future, then a compassionate relationship is what you truly want.
I’ve always firmly believed that the advice on Sosuave has gold-like value, especially for building a man’s life. But being alone, or acting “cold” just to demand respect from others, won’t make you as happy as you think. Many men here can prove happines that comes from a secure relationship is not the one it comes when you have multiple ONS.
You still need the warmth that comes from a hug, a kiss, or the words of someone you trust, someone with whom you play no games, and build life and things togheter. This is what a single man can't understand until he's in it and experiences these things.
