Secret's out: why women really have sex

[Poonani Maker]

Secret's out: why women really have sex

The Daily Telegraph

September 08, 2009 12:00am

Why women have sex
Of 1000 women interviewed for a new book, 84 per cent have sex just to keep the peace at home / Ray Cash

* Women reveal why they really have sex
* 84% do it 'for a quiet life'
* 'I hoped he would put the rubbish out'

FOR every woman expecting the earth to move, there are two with more practical motives.

From relieving boredom, to keeping the peace or curing a headache, women have sex for many reasons but romance and passion come rather low on the list, a new book has revealed.

One woman even admitted to having sex just so her husband would put the rubbish out.

"Research has shown most men find most women at least somewhat sexually attractive, whereas most women do not find most men sexually attractive at all," Why Women Have Sex authors Cindy Meston and David Buss said.

Having apparently discounted physical attraction, the 1000 women interviewed by the Texas University professors gave a huge range of reasons for sleeping with a man.

One said she did it for a spiritual experience, proclaiming: "It's the closest thing to God."

But mostly the explanations were far more mundane, with 84 per cent admitting to having sex just to ensure a quiet life or to bargain for household chores. One woman said: "I have sex to relieve the boredom because it's easier than fighting. Plus it gives me something to do."

While it may not come as welcome news, some women have sex out of sympathy, with one admitting: "I slept with a couple of guys because I felt sorry for them."

But many have more selfish motives, with financial or material rewards a major factor.

In one survey of students, nearly one in 10 women admitted to "having sex for presents". Others said: "He bought me a nice dinner", "he spent a lot of money on me early on", "he showed me he had an extravagant lifestyle".

And rather than love or romance, for many women sex is just about fun.

Six in 10 university students said they slept with a male friend who was not their boyfriend.

http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,26041735-36398,00.html

 

[Hooligan Harry]

HAHAHAHAHAHA

Women ****ing men to

1. Get them to do the dishes
2. Get them to buy them ****
3. Boost their egos
4. Ensure he is getting some so he remembers what its like for when you need 1-3

This is not new.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Eh, I think this is why older women/married women/LTR women have sex. In their 20s they want to screw.

 

[Da Realist]

Eh, I think this is why older women/married women/LTR women have sex. In their 20s they want to screw.

Hit the nail on the head. I think it's all more about where a person is in life than it just being a general thing among women because men will get like that.

 

[SmoothTalker]

... I am surprised having a baby didn't make the list.

Anyway I agree, sounds like the women doing it for household peace are the middle aged and up people, who's husband is probably bald, gray, and packing a beer belly.

 

[Arakune]

I don't believe BS studies like this

but crap like this is not new

How many of you guys always have sex for Romance and love?

Most guys reasoning is

"She was hot"

"I was drunk and she looked ok"

"I'm horny and need pvssy"

sex is a commodity nowadays

 

[azanon]

Eh, I think this is why older women/married women/LTR women have sex. In their 20s they want to screw.

I can't claim 50+ like some can, but based on the one's I've had, I'm not totally convinced. What sometimes seems on the surface like they "just want to screw", if you really think about the before and after, and pretty much everything, you can usually find that it was a means to an end. I've known SO MANY that if they figure out all you really care about is the sex and not them per se... then they're GONE.

From the women I know personally, I can't think of very many at all that would be interested in a genuine FWB, and really and truly not want anything else. I understand the concept, but haven't seen this in RL.

What I DO think is that they generally like it/enjoy it while it's happening. In fact, while it's happening, they seem to enjoy it more (given the noise they make). Or maybe it's my big d***. I digress.... But before any sex actually starts, most I've known can usually take it or leave it.

My wife will often seduce me (even today) after 16 years of marriage. But if i were totally honest about it, I think she possibly does that because she knows it's a sure-fire way to get my undivided attention, and some cuddle time. The sex is the means to that end, in other words.

 

[fertileTurtle]

While it may not come as welcome news, some women have sex out of sympathy, with one admitting: "I slept with a couple of guys because I felt sorry for them.

Hmmmm. I may have an angle here.

 

[Evzone]

This may be true if you are talking about your average, settling-for-less unhappy married couple.

A healthy girl will want sex just as much as a man. Same biological urges.