Second Question (Who to choose?)

[April_Infinite]

For the first time in a quite a while, I'm free. I suffered from one-itis; hence I've had a crushes on girls constantly ever since preschool. Just lately, when I recieved the "Lets just be friends speech" for the umpteeth time, have I been freed from that. It's quite the weird feeling, actually.

So now, that I'm not crippled by a crush (after reading the articles on this site, that won't happen again) I actually am free to DJ. I've never had a girlfriend nor been kissed before. So that leads me to my question. I've met a few people, flirted here and there (I'm still afc, I'm working on it) and now I have a few potienial girls. Now, I'm the serious relationship type, I'm not DJ'ing to do someone, I'm here to actually have a meaningful relationship. But I don't really adore these people. I mean, they are girlfriend material, but not "special" like the people I've had crushes on before. I know that being too selective about who I mack on is afc.

Should I just give in, and just seek a relationship with any old person who is decent enough for girlfriend material, or should I bide my time, and wait for a more special girl before making a permentant move?

 

[Docs]

Whatever makes you feel happy. Nothing sucks more then being with someone you don't fully...trust, or like, or really want around. On the other hand, they could give you invaluable experience, and that's worth its weight in gold. Better to screw up with a girl that doesn't matter as much, then with the one you want, right?

 

[April_Infinite]

I'm afc, so what would make me happy would be to just wait...and wait...and wait for the perfect one. Then when I go down in a ball of flames from lack of experience, curl up in a depressed ball.

That's why I'm asking what you guys recommend, I can't trust my instincts until I flush all the afc out of me.

 

[Elmoshow21]

Just go out with some of the potential girls and have a good time. You'll gain some experience. Also, you'll attract other prospects, who would be more to your liking. Who knows you might really hit it off with one of those potential girls. I hope that helps.

 

[Steg]

Get the whole relationship concept out of your head for a while. Find some ho's,sarge, have a good time. That should cure your AFc'ness. Good luck bro

 

[April_Infinite]

I never have really been this free before, lets say I do actually DJ successduly for once in my life and have many potiential girls that like me. Won't that be a bit of a problem? I'm not the type to have flings with people, nor am I looking for sex either. So wouldn't all these people be a problem, if I'm trying to be in a relationship? The moment I get involved with one that I don't care about, I'd have to reject them (because I wouldn't truly like them, unlike the girls before I had one-itis with that were actually impressive). Which would lead to me being labeled as a player after a while.

 

[Rata Blanca]

I'm afc, so what would make me happy would be to just wait...and wait...and wait for the perfect one. Then when I go down in a ball of flames from lack of experience, curl up in a depressed ball.

That's why I'm asking what you guys recommend, I can't trust my instincts until I flush all the afc out of me.

And wait and wait and die alone?
As a man you act, you ask for the numbers, ask for the date, and initiate intimacy (first kisss etc) exclusive relationship propositions are girls job, if she doesn't bring the topic, keep dating other girls

 

[April_Infinite]

Kissing people you aren't that fond of doesn't seem like a good idea to me if you aren't into the whole sex thing...