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STOP! This post is very important, too important to be ignored, I don’t want to lower your hope but I am sorry to tell that this post will most definitely teach you some VERY effective techniques.
This post is mostly melted down into effective techniques; some that I have come up with and some, which I have adopted from others. Influence is very important indeed; to be able to influence the target of your desire or in other parts in your life is crucial for success. Influence and attraction will be strung together, using them both in the techniques.
Expectation In 1999 a not so close friend of mine told me about a broken heart problem. He was just coming out of a bad relationship and was single. The relationship was his first real one and they had met with a little luck in the schools dining room; he had managed to bump into the girl so she had dropped her tray making a scene. So now he was looking for another relationship and he had no clue about how to pick up women or any seduction skills. He told me, “They say that you are great with women and I thought, since you are so good, that you maybe could help me.” Well, to be honest, I didn’t know much back then but I happily agreed to help him. There were some factors. He expected me to be good, and I felt that if I had declined then my skills would not seem real (even if they weren’t).
This skill can be used in many different ways. Maybe if you are looking for assistance than you could possibly say something like this. “I just hear someone praise you in the cafeteria and I just though you should know. People always say that you are kind and helpful to others, and that is a trait that I really admire in people. (Small talk) I don’t want to be pushy here but we need someone to fill in a slot for an afternoon at the flea market. If you would agree than it would be very helpful.” You see that this person is expected to be helpful and when he has a chance to prove it then he will much more often do it.
Repay “Do unto others and be done twice upon.” That is the heart of this influence skill. Do a person a favor and expect them to repay it. You see, when people get favors from other, all the normal people feel a sense that they are obligated to repay it in some way; that feeling grow and grow over time. Let me tell you a little story. Edmond Dantes the main character in “The Count of Monte Cristo“ is forced to fight to death against a fierce smuggler at that time to be accepted into the crew. He wins the duel and instead of slaying his enemy he spare his life and persuade the captain that the man is needed and it would be foolish to slay him. The smuggler is so grateful that he swears a lifelong oath that he is at Dantes service forever, no matter what!
We don’t have to be that extreme, but doing something for another person will give you his emotional dept. People will go to the extremes to repay you just to get rid of the emotional weight of the dept. You don’t even have to do so much, as people have a tendency to repay more than they have got.
Agree Whatever we admit it or not, we like persons who agree with us. Imagine yourself in a meeting with a lot of people, you have made a proposal and everyone in the room is negative to it, except one who agrees with you and tries to persuade the others. The normal thing to do is to feel an attachment to this person, a small gratitude and positive emotion. This is often a good thing to do if you plan to open a relationship to others as they sense a little gratitude to you and that they want to repay it. But don’t be fooled; you should never agree with everything, disagree sometimes so it is not obvious that you are trying to manipulate. If you would like to befriend or belove two women who are arguing, take no side until you are alone with them, were you tell them that you secretly agree with them but that is only between the two of you.
Attention People love attention. Give it to them and then pull it away. It is very easy to do. For example, be with a person three days in a row and be the wonderful Don Juan. Then for a couple of days, be unreachable or give attention to others who you are socializing with. Make them fight for your attention. A good thing you can do is to be different from others in a way or another, not a geek’s way but in a mystic way. Were a strange necklace, use different clothes, walk in a specific way, have scars, have a colored hair.
Rareness Don’t be around all the time, be occupied, this will increase your value.
Need Every person has a need in themselves. We all display a little of this need to others in small fragrances of signs. You may see a person light up if you tell them that they seem to differ from everyone else. If you give them some attention, if you show them that they are needed to others. It all comes in different forms. People tend to either want to reclaim what they had in the past, looks, popularity and respect or want what they do not have, innocence, experience, excitement, mystic. Locating the need is very hard to do indeed; and I will try to give you some clues on to what to do.
Reading other persons poems CAN be a good source. Most people however are not consciously aware of this need so it will not often show there. I have lined up some very common need in today’s society:
Some ways to create social proof:
Spread rumors: If you are in school this is easy. Just write on the desks, walls, lockers and toilets. Try just to write your name. It will work wonders, people who are exposed by this will wonder who you are. It will mystify you. If you are so banal so you write, “Don Juan is so handsome” then it will ruin your social proof. Be mystical: “Don Juan, he makes me wonder?” “Who is Don Juan really?” If you can, get women to write that they love you in the ladies room. The power of the school rumor is the ladies room. Women love what other women love.
Surround yourself with people: Pretty obvious right? If you are making a group of people enjoy your presence then you are probably very special, people will wonder. This can easily be done since you are a Don Juan. Let other people talk, steer the conversation where it will benefit you most and add some humor. Do not strive for attention because it makes you seem insecure. Treat people as they want to be treated is a good motto and let them tell their story.
Mystify yourself: Do not reveal too much about yourself, hint all the time that you are more than you appear. Give yourself the aura of hidden danger or secrets under your wonderful outer layer. Hints can be “If you knew me, then you would not say such things.” “I am afraid that people will know who I am deep inside.” “Isn’t it strange when you think about someone then you realize that you don’t really know anything about him?” Examples where they can be used:
Italics = Female
Example 1
I didn’t know that you enjoyed doing that.
Isn’t it strange when you think about someone then you realize that you don’t really know anything about him?
Example 2
You are so kind to people!
If you know who I was deep inside then you wouldn’t say such things, you would be afraid. *turn around and walk away or look into eyes waiting for her to say something first*
Example 3
What is wrong?
Something have happened this week that I had expected for a long time, I don’t really want people to know anything, it will just scare them, I am afraid that people will find out who I’m really are. I am sorry, but I really don’t want to talk now.
Remember to use these sparsely because if you use them to often they will loose their intended effect. Never give more than vague answers to their questions. Use their imagination as a weapon against them.
This post is mostly melted down into effective techniques; some that I have come up with and some, which I have adopted from others. Influence is very important indeed; to be able to influence the target of your desire or in other parts in your life is crucial for success. Influence and attraction will be strung together, using them both in the techniques.
Expectation In 1999 a not so close friend of mine told me about a broken heart problem. He was just coming out of a bad relationship and was single. The relationship was his first real one and they had met with a little luck in the schools dining room; he had managed to bump into the girl so she had dropped her tray making a scene. So now he was looking for another relationship and he had no clue about how to pick up women or any seduction skills. He told me, “They say that you are great with women and I thought, since you are so good, that you maybe could help me.” Well, to be honest, I didn’t know much back then but I happily agreed to help him. There were some factors. He expected me to be good, and I felt that if I had declined then my skills would not seem real (even if they weren’t).
This skill can be used in many different ways. Maybe if you are looking for assistance than you could possibly say something like this. “I just hear someone praise you in the cafeteria and I just though you should know. People always say that you are kind and helpful to others, and that is a trait that I really admire in people. (Small talk) I don’t want to be pushy here but we need someone to fill in a slot for an afternoon at the flea market. If you would agree than it would be very helpful.” You see that this person is expected to be helpful and when he has a chance to prove it then he will much more often do it.
Repay “Do unto others and be done twice upon.” That is the heart of this influence skill. Do a person a favor and expect them to repay it. You see, when people get favors from other, all the normal people feel a sense that they are obligated to repay it in some way; that feeling grow and grow over time. Let me tell you a little story. Edmond Dantes the main character in “The Count of Monte Cristo“ is forced to fight to death against a fierce smuggler at that time to be accepted into the crew. He wins the duel and instead of slaying his enemy he spare his life and persuade the captain that the man is needed and it would be foolish to slay him. The smuggler is so grateful that he swears a lifelong oath that he is at Dantes service forever, no matter what!
We don’t have to be that extreme, but doing something for another person will give you his emotional dept. People will go to the extremes to repay you just to get rid of the emotional weight of the dept. You don’t even have to do so much, as people have a tendency to repay more than they have got.
Agree Whatever we admit it or not, we like persons who agree with us. Imagine yourself in a meeting with a lot of people, you have made a proposal and everyone in the room is negative to it, except one who agrees with you and tries to persuade the others. The normal thing to do is to feel an attachment to this person, a small gratitude and positive emotion. This is often a good thing to do if you plan to open a relationship to others as they sense a little gratitude to you and that they want to repay it. But don’t be fooled; you should never agree with everything, disagree sometimes so it is not obvious that you are trying to manipulate. If you would like to befriend or belove two women who are arguing, take no side until you are alone with them, were you tell them that you secretly agree with them but that is only between the two of you.
Attention People love attention. Give it to them and then pull it away. It is very easy to do. For example, be with a person three days in a row and be the wonderful Don Juan. Then for a couple of days, be unreachable or give attention to others who you are socializing with. Make them fight for your attention. A good thing you can do is to be different from others in a way or another, not a geek’s way but in a mystic way. Were a strange necklace, use different clothes, walk in a specific way, have scars, have a colored hair.
Rareness Don’t be around all the time, be occupied, this will increase your value.
Need Every person has a need in themselves. We all display a little of this need to others in small fragrances of signs. You may see a person light up if you tell them that they seem to differ from everyone else. If you give them some attention, if you show them that they are needed to others. It all comes in different forms. People tend to either want to reclaim what they had in the past, looks, popularity and respect or want what they do not have, innocence, experience, excitement, mystic. Locating the need is very hard to do indeed; and I will try to give you some clues on to what to do.
Reading other persons poems CAN be a good source. Most people however are not consciously aware of this need so it will not often show there. I have lined up some very common need in today’s society:
- Need for freedom and relief – Show the person that it is ok just to let everything go and enjoy life
- Recapture of youth and missing things – Give her what she had in the past or the power she had when she was younger
- Fairytale love/romance – Read a romance novel dummy
- Exciting adventures – Just giving the girl some excitement, the person who picks up Arnolds wife in “True Lies” is a good example
- Powerful lust – feeling no obligation just living for pleasure a short while
- Feeling of power – giving a person the illusion that she is more powerful and influential than she is (or beautiful or whatever she want)
- Taken seriously – Many people are just judged by their looks or other things trapping all their personality inside, tapping into the personality can unleash all the trapped emotions on you.
Some ways to create social proof:
Spread rumors: If you are in school this is easy. Just write on the desks, walls, lockers and toilets. Try just to write your name. It will work wonders, people who are exposed by this will wonder who you are. It will mystify you. If you are so banal so you write, “Don Juan is so handsome” then it will ruin your social proof. Be mystical: “Don Juan, he makes me wonder?” “Who is Don Juan really?” If you can, get women to write that they love you in the ladies room. The power of the school rumor is the ladies room. Women love what other women love.
Surround yourself with people: Pretty obvious right? If you are making a group of people enjoy your presence then you are probably very special, people will wonder. This can easily be done since you are a Don Juan. Let other people talk, steer the conversation where it will benefit you most and add some humor. Do not strive for attention because it makes you seem insecure. Treat people as they want to be treated is a good motto and let them tell their story.
Mystify yourself: Do not reveal too much about yourself, hint all the time that you are more than you appear. Give yourself the aura of hidden danger or secrets under your wonderful outer layer. Hints can be “If you knew me, then you would not say such things.” “I am afraid that people will know who I am deep inside.” “Isn’t it strange when you think about someone then you realize that you don’t really know anything about him?” Examples where they can be used:
Italics = Female
Example 1
I didn’t know that you enjoyed doing that.
Isn’t it strange when you think about someone then you realize that you don’t really know anything about him?
Example 2
You are so kind to people!
If you know who I was deep inside then you wouldn’t say such things, you would be afraid. *turn around and walk away or look into eyes waiting for her to say something first*
Example 3
What is wrong?
Something have happened this week that I had expected for a long time, I don’t really want people to know anything, it will just scare them, I am afraid that people will find out who I’m really are. I am sorry, but I really don’t want to talk now.
Remember to use these sparsely because if you use them to often they will loose their intended effect. Never give more than vague answers to their questions. Use their imagination as a weapon against them.
