"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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second girl date; unsuccessful! BUT :)

HappyHarryHardon

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so we met in the city. on the phone we seemed to click well. she laughed at all my jokes and seemed very interested in me. though when we met it was a lil different. i kissed her cheek and straight away she was saying she left her wallet at home and she wanted to go back n get it. wtf. i didnt come all the way here for this so i said forget it u dont need it. i think she didnt like what she saw when she met me. i dunno. so we walked and talked for a bit. she also parties and drinks a bit. i dont. she also said she had a hang over cause of last night.

so anyway, i paid for coffee obviously. we talked more and joked. told her she looked good etc. she also told me some crap about her last date that was married and lied so she just wanted to hang out as friends or something. meh. i was cool the whole time. so we walk around again for a bit then she tells me she has to go cause shes worried she lost her wallet lol. so we part ways. told her i had a good time. NOT. tried to kiss her cheek but she didnt give me a chance and didnt even look at me. even before this she didnt look at me much until we sat at a coffee shop infront of each other (wasn't even good eye contact). turns out we didnt have that much in common and she was not my type. also, i DID look like sh1t today cause i was sooo tired. i had big black bags under my eyes .. probably looked like a drug addict but still, i was very nice, flirty, ****y, and confident. if thats not enough for her then shes not worth my time.

so i figured i didnt come all the way to the city for this and chilled out at some random place. sat next to some girl for about 30 mins. spoke to some friends on the phone. i asked the girl next to me where do i go to catch the trains cause i am not familiar with the city. she told me. she really wanted to help lol. we actually ended up having a 30 min conversation. she was diggin me bad. got to know her a lot. asked her heaps of questions and she asked me too. she kept smiling and had that surprised look that i was chatting her up. i told her gimme ur number we will catch up sometime and she gladly did. she also asked for mine. called my phone right there on the spot just to check, lol! so she got a call from her friend who was meeting her and after that i got up and said goodbye and talk soon. she was sad i was leaving. she even reminded me to call soon so we can hang out. five mins later she txt me saying it was nice to meet me and hopes to see me soon. again, i looked like total sh1t with those bags under my eyes, but the difference with this girl was that she was totally into ME not how i looked. this is the kind of girl that i like. very rare to find one that isn't superficial on looks. sheesh.

so yeah. that really made my day. and on top of that. i get a text from last nights date saying she couldnt go out tomorrow but next sat afternoon she could. i guess i asked too soon. btw, she is very pretty this one. AGAIN i looked kinda crap that night but she digged me. another non superficial girl. even shared a few kisses. more to come next saturday :)

also todays date text me a couple hours later saying she found the wallet (BS) and thanks for the coffee. i just said no problem! i am now on my way home :)

what a weekend!



p.s; she kept answering her phone and playing with it. rude b1tch. i'm glad i got to know her better. she was not my type at all. was still good getting out there and interacting. if it wasn't for her i wouldn't of met the other girl, lol :p
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HappyHarryHardon

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i wrote all that on my iphone during my train ride back home lol. was good though, kept me busy half the way.
 

Tiguere

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As tom leykis says next time u on a date and she whips out her phone GET UP AND LEAVE.

You are paying for her exclusive attention.

But the reason you are not getting comments is because you seem to know your game.

And keeping busy with different girls is key.
 

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Yo that's pretty excellent man! I keep giving the online thing a try, but I've never had much luck.

I think that meeting people in person, whether randomly or through friends, creates an instant comfort that really takes away much of the need for consideration about timing or word play or any of that stuff that requires lots of elaboration and logic. Really, when you get them feeling something about you, whether from curiosity or comfort or sexual attraction, much of the "games" we talk about playing become unnecessary. Beyond that, very simple rules apply and that's really great that you didn't let yourself be dragged down just because this girl wasn't interested.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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