Second Date

[SHChamp]

Just noticed I wrote a huge block of text, if you feel like reading it through, I would love your input guys. Thanks.

So, I'm not quite sure how to handle this following situation because this is a first to me.

Keep in mind here that I was the kind of guy that got crazy emotional and excited every time I got any response from a girl whatsoever, and would do anything to get her attention, climb mountains to get to her. Ugh.. just thinking about back then.. yuck.

Lately, I have been meeting so many women, I have a hard time remembering all of their names. I am constantly surrounded by women, and the attention I am getting is insane because of the things that I learned here. I have so many prospects that my attitude towards them completely changed, which only increased my success.

Here is my problem, there is this one prospect who I was fairly interested in. I took her out on the first date, it was interesting and sort of fun, called her about a week after, asking her for a second date. She was excited and was definitely down. So, the thing is, I don't feel anything towards her at this point, like, I don't know if I am really into her or not. Which is really NEW to me.

As I have never been the selector before and me also being an AFC back then, this feeling is new to me. Now, I called her two days ago, saying that I would call her back for details on the second date, but I am heavily considering whether I should or not.

What would be the suave thing to do here? Just call her again and set up the date because this is normal, or drop her because my own IL isn't high enough? Is it weird that I am becoming so emotionally indifferent towards girls? As stupid as it was back then, that feeling of infatuation I didn't hate. It felt good.

TLDR; Met a girl, first date was nice, not sure if my own IL is high enough, ask for a second date or nah?

 

[SHChamp]

Does anyone have any experience with this that could provide some advice?

 

[Comatozed]

Do what you want man, only you know. Wanna see her? Call her. Don't wanna see her? Don't.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

You've already hit her up saying you would call to give her later details on date number 2 (which, for future's sake, isn't necessary - ideally you'd have a date idea planned in advance before hitting her up). I typically give girls at least 2 days in case the first one was a fluke - so long as you don't take her any place too expensive it should be fine. Then, after the 2nd date if you're still not feeling the situation, just don't call her again, or when she calls you just say you had a good time with her but you don't feel there's a real connection. Hope this helps!

 

[SHChamp]

I called her up to meet up this Sunday, but she said she was going to be out of town. I had an alternative, which was to go to the zoo, a night showing, which she blatantly refused because she is a vegetarian?

Either way, she did not give an alternative and at this point I could not care less, so I just said that I'd get back to her.

Should I drop her for just flat out refusing and not giving an alternative, or just call her up next week with new plans?

 

[VladPatton]

The trick is to go for the girls that make your sausage twitch. Don't just do it to go out on a date, to have a high lay count. If nothing gets you going, it's temporary. Life is seasonal. Occupy yourself with other shıt and keep busy.

 

[SHChamp]

The trick is to go for the girls that make your sausage twitch. Don't just do it to go out on a date, to have a high lay count. If nothing gets you going, it's temporary. Life is seasonal. Occupy yourself with other shıt and keep busy.

I needed to hear this. I was afraid that being or becoming a DJ was starting to become all about the lay count, thanks.

 

[VladPatton]

No, man these are all just tools and general knowledge. A doctor doesn't use all of his learnings each day and every day of his medical practice. You use as you need.