Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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There was this girl who I hung out with a while back, but then I found out that she wasn't really interested in being more than friends, so I decided to drop her and moved on with my life. I did the whole NC thing as well. It's been almost half a year, and lately, she's been trying to initiate conversations and sending good vibes like laughing at every joke I make like it's the funniest **** ever. I'm still attracted to her and am willing to give it one more chance, but I don't want to seem too eager. I'm hoping some of you certified DJs out there can give this up-and-comer some advice on how to handle this situation.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jacesmooth63 said:
There was this girl who I hung out with a while back, but then I found out that she wasn't really interested in being more than friends, so I decided to drop her and moved on with my life. I did the whole NC thing as well. It's been almost half a year, and lately, she's been trying to initiate conversations and sending good vibes like laughing at every joke I make like it's the funniest **** ever. I'm still attracted to her and am willing to give it one more chance, but I don't want to seem too eager. I'm hoping some of you certified DJs out there can give this up-and-comer some advice on how to handle this situation.
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One question. How exactly did you find out she wasn't interested in you? What led you to that conclusion?
 
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One question. How exactly did you find out she wasn't interested in you? What led you to that conclusion?
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lol.. im embarrassed to say this, and it was the catalyst to me searching for answers and finding this site.. but i basically told her that i liked her, and she told me that she didnt want a relationship and "let's just be friends for now." I'm a changed man now and I think she's noticing it too.
 
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The worst thing you can do towards your path of becoming a dj is getting oneitis and focusing on a girl that gave you the friend card in the past.

What I would do in your situation would be to keep working on yourself, concentrate on other girls but when you're with this girl use your newly found dj tactics on her.

Do kino on her and lots of it. She laughs her a$$ off at your jokes you say? Great! put your hand on her shoulder as she is laughing her a$$ off. Touch her and touch her a lot. Neg her, compliment her in the right way when she looks good (btw i forgot to mention it the other day you looked real sexy in those jeans, with your long black hair you looked like a pearl in the orient) etc. Show her sexual interest.

What i'm getting at is use her as practice without putting pressure on yourself to win her over (like you're doing now). Whatever happens happens.
 
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the hell with her....she had her chance with you and blew it. this ain't golf...no mulligans around here! if she wanted to be with you she should have had her $h!t together back then. basically you weren't good enough for her then so why should YOU have to improve yourself to be with HER? what improvments has SHE made in the same time? i bet not a d@mn one. i'd lead her on and make HER ask you out or tell you she's interested in you and then drop that bomb on her about "oh, sorry, but i just want to be friends right now". women hate tasting their own medicine but that's just to d@mn bad.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP, I was in your shoes a while back. I wasn't AFC at the time, more Don Juan, but what happened was, I playfully told a girl that I knew she liked me. Which she objected to. She did, but was hiding it. She said "I'm not in the right place for a relationship right now. " and left it at that. I did exactly what you did. NC on her for a good while, while living my life.

The whole time I went NC on her, she got to thinking about what a great catch I am and what she missed out on, which made her behave like how your girl's behaving now. It's like you lived my past. That girl is currently my girlfriend. She now knows my true value and covets me like a frickin oscar. She's the perfect girlfriend too: submissive, passive & helpful. Chicks just need to know that you're the man they want; that you've got backbone and value. Once they know that, they're pretty much yours.

I'd say go for it with this one.
You have nothing to lose.

However if she shows you even the slightest of disrespect, walk away. You can do better.
 
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