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Second and the last date

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1st date: met for coffee. Talk for a couple of hours, walk at a cool looking mall.. she talked a lot (IL is high I noticed) but never asked me anything about me. Not even one question.

2nd date: went to a restaurant. I asked her to drive cuz "I want to see if you are a good driver". She talk less a little bit.. still after the restaurant she mention she likes some particular type of icecream I suggested we go get it. We did. Then _she_ drove me to a park (at night!) to eat the ice cream... her IL must be really good since the park was not only dark, but small, there were almost no people...so she is up to a kissing session I thought.
Yes, sure the kissing session followed...She was tense due to some kids in the neighboring house were playing outside and probably looking at us.
In the end of the date I suggest to meet to Thursday: "what are you doing on Thursday?" She "Nothing..." All right I'll get in touch with you.

After a couple of days I wrote her an email (since we met online it was an established way on communication), I suggested some specifics for the next date. She didn't reply in two days.. I called her and left a message "Hey...This me...Call me back at..."
Nothing: no reply, no call back.... nothing.
I worte an email with "He you were not available so I could not reach you before Thursday. EMail me back...". And Nothing.

It felt odd: she showed a high IL on the fist date and a decent one on the second. But after that she disappeared.

So what is the problem? She met somebody else and did't bother to say anything to me? she didn't like the kissing session?
She was on a rebound and just wanted some attention?

During the dates she were talkative, feisty and were talkig about stuff people usually dont: her ex husband (he cheated onme), her son.. etc etc...

What do you guys think besides obvious "get over it"? Why does this kind of situation happen?
 

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There could be a number of reasons 5hit like this happens. She gets back with a bf, she decides to become a lesbian, she just wasn't that into you, etc etc.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. This was only your second date with her. It's not like you spent 9 years together. Let her be and find other women. If she changes her mind and wants to continue dating you, she'll call. Until then, don't give it too much thought. Lots of women flake.
 

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Originally posted by Desdinova
There could be a number of reasons 5hit like this happens. She gets back with a bf, she decides to become a lesbian, she just wasn't that into you, etc etc.
Yes, you are right. Just one thing is weird: usually what happen on the first date: no sparks either her IL is low or I dont find her attractive.

In that case I liked her and her IL was pretty high (why would she drove to the park at night anyway?) But suddenly she stopped every kind of communication.

Has anyone seen that? Was she just hugry for attention for a couple of dates? She gave me signs of high IL but and absolutely chnaged her mind after 2nd date...even after she agreed to go on the next date.
 

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Your asking questions we can't provide answers for. Who the hell knows why. There's could be a million reasons why.
 
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