She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What?insidious said:Seated weight-lifting is usually as useful to us as a bicycle is to a fish.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thats impossible.. you will always do more weight standing for the simple fact your using all your muscles to press it overhead.cuzza said:Seated for me. I struggle with form on standing and seated allows me to do more weight.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What are you talking about? When did the press become a full body exercise? Are you using legs and hip drive? Stop cheating. The hardest part of the press is just maintaining balance while standing, and if i'm leaning backwards with my spine about to snap because i'm standing instead of seated how am i supposed to life MORE weight? Everyone i see do the press is practically doing a standing bench press anyway with the amount of leaning back they do. Oh, and that's why they dropped the press itself from olympic lifting.blackbelt2k said:thats impossible.. you will always do more weight standing for the simple fact your using all your muscles to press it overhead.
I'm relating standing press to push press. I do push presses. They develop power. Just with any power movement, the force starts from the ground up. Using your legs and hip only amplify the power into your shoulders/arms--> so you push more weight up. Also, on a standing press, if you have proper form, you CANNOT lean back. Your shoulders should lockout as you shrugg your traps at the top of the movement and the bar should be directly over the middle of your head. If you lean back, the bar moves over the front of your head.. your not doing it correctly.mrRuckus said:What are you talking about? When did the press become a full body exercise? Are you using legs and hip drive? Stop cheating. The hardest part of the press is just maintaining balance while standing, and if i'm leaning backwards with my spine about to snap because i'm standing instead of seated how am i supposed to life MORE weight? Everyone i see do the press is practically doing a standing bench press anyway with the amount of leaning back they do. Oh, and that's why they dropped the press itself from olympic lifting.
If nothing else, doing a seated press makes every rep the same instead of the angle of your back progressively deteriorating every rep.
Next you'll tell me it doesn't count if i do db bicep curls seated because i can't use my back.
oh, by the way.. i rarely do it seated. Maybe i should go back to doing it on the smith because if i remember right that's when i made the most shoulder progress, but ohhh nooo the stabilimizers.
If you want the trapezius of Bill Kazmaier, do what he did:blackbelt2k said:hey strong, on a side note...trapezius row, would you recommend low reps/high weight or the opposite ? purpose mass and strenght
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.