Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What?insidious said:Seated weight-lifting is usually as useful to us as a bicycle is to a fish.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
thats impossible.. you will always do more weight standing for the simple fact your using all your muscles to press it overhead.cuzza said:Seated for me. I struggle with form on standing and seated allows me to do more weight.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What are you talking about? When did the press become a full body exercise? Are you using legs and hip drive? Stop cheating. The hardest part of the press is just maintaining balance while standing, and if i'm leaning backwards with my spine about to snap because i'm standing instead of seated how am i supposed to life MORE weight? Everyone i see do the press is practically doing a standing bench press anyway with the amount of leaning back they do. Oh, and that's why they dropped the press itself from olympic lifting.blackbelt2k said:thats impossible.. you will always do more weight standing for the simple fact your using all your muscles to press it overhead.
I'm relating standing press to push press. I do push presses. They develop power. Just with any power movement, the force starts from the ground up. Using your legs and hip only amplify the power into your shoulders/arms--> so you push more weight up. Also, on a standing press, if you have proper form, you CANNOT lean back. Your shoulders should lockout as you shrugg your traps at the top of the movement and the bar should be directly over the middle of your head. If you lean back, the bar moves over the front of your head.. your not doing it correctly.mrRuckus said:What are you talking about? When did the press become a full body exercise? Are you using legs and hip drive? Stop cheating. The hardest part of the press is just maintaining balance while standing, and if i'm leaning backwards with my spine about to snap because i'm standing instead of seated how am i supposed to life MORE weight? Everyone i see do the press is practically doing a standing bench press anyway with the amount of leaning back they do. Oh, and that's why they dropped the press itself from olympic lifting.
If nothing else, doing a seated press makes every rep the same instead of the angle of your back progressively deteriorating every rep.
Next you'll tell me it doesn't count if i do db bicep curls seated because i can't use my back.
oh, by the way.. i rarely do it seated. Maybe i should go back to doing it on the smith because if i remember right that's when i made the most shoulder progress, but ohhh nooo the stabilimizers.
If you want the trapezius of Bill Kazmaier, do what he did:blackbelt2k said:hey strong, on a side note...trapezius row, would you recommend low reps/high weight or the opposite ? purpose mass and strenght
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.