Seasoned loser needs comments.

[arlo]

Well im 19, never been laid and shock horror, never kissed!!! Pathetic, I know. I had my chance when I was 12 with a hot girl, and screwed up... kinda 'didnt go in for the kill' even though she was willing.

Since then, ive had a few grabs but thats it. Oh and 2 awesome chances to make out with 2 awesome girls... but didn't want to do so in the company that was present... My excuse so far has been acne (just went to the dermo and seems to be finally sorting itself after 4 years of torture lol....). That and a varicocele, but hopefully getting that sorted this week also. Knowing my luck the fvcker will be the sort that cant be treated... if so ill cut the disgusting fvck out myself lol but anyway.

Im pretty average looking. Ive been called ugly once (I was 14), and on the other hand been called a stunner recently by customers at work on 2 occassions. So I dunno about that, I do know I have a good, cut body (gym junkie of a year), and will be hitting the solarium soon. Guess you could call the past month or so "makeover" time...

The one thing that annoys me is that I'm a fricking bore. I mean you'd think a gym/martial arts junkie that kicks ass on guitar and drums and is good at his studies would do ok... but I'm just not funny, I mean I cant think of comments on the fly and am always the one in the group that "never talks". I know you guys think you can learn cf but I dunno... seems i'm stuck with this thick personality, thats the main thing pissing me off. I'm a "nice guy" but do not have any female friends, and just a select few close friends, and usually feel stupid when out at clubs and whatnot...

This has been kinda a pointless rant just saying where i'm at I guess... hopefully the next few months will be a turning point. At the moment I have been speaking to this girl (phone, and yes she is hot) but I aint offering to meet her till i get the physical **** sorted...

 

[Starman]

Im curious,

Why does it stick in your mind at 19 that your were called "ugly" at 12

and what facts do you have that you are a "bore"?

You seem to have grown up in an environment where you were never appreciated for the positive things you did, and only scorned or magnified the negatve things in your life?

 

[arlo]

Well dude my interaction with the ladies at 14 was close to nix, so it did stick in my mind, I dunno why. I always get positive reactions for the things I do, but yeah I think I have inhereted much of my mothers personality (negative outlook etc.). Which I have recently been trying to distance myself from, hence fixing the self image etc....

Everyone that knows me thinks I am nice, but also think I always look bored or depressed. I know I can remedy that easily, but thats how its been thus far.

As for being a bore, well I just know that I'm always the one with the least to say, thats it i guess... I know some people like that in a person, but I don't like being "that person"...

Yeah I know I sound like a little sook peoples But I need to let a few things off i guess.

cheers

 

[Starman]

There is an interesting story..if you tie a baby elephant with a chain to a nailed floor..he will learn to give up on breaking away..As an adult elephant..you could tie him with a string and a nail in the grass..he STILL wont try to break away.

You need to let go of who you were at 12 or 13, you are a very different person at 19

what exactly do you do that makes you look bored or depressed?

and who exactly said since you look "bored", that you are "boring"?

 

[arlo]

True, but I seemed to do better at around 13... 13-15 was when I had the opportunities, then came acne, and with that I guess confidence went downhill because I just couldn't be bothered even trying, so I kind of avoided chicks... Just accepted it and couldn't be screwed.

About looking bored lol... its just that, I tend to always have a 'tired' face i guess. But like I said this is **** I can fix myself, just gotta start putting on a more outgoing face.

Noone says im boring, I just know I am (or thats what I appear to be at least) cuz I know that when Ive been in a group and theres another guy thats always walking behind or staring at the roof instead of talking, he looks like a bore!!

Maybe im just paranoid, then thats another thing in itself

cheers dude

 

[b's nuts]

k, you want pvssy? Its been infront of you all along. you say you are good at the drums and guitar? start a band, start playing shows. (a lot of the time, you can get into bars if you are underage because your band is playing!). Whatever, my friend was the exact same way (acne, plus this kid was plain wierd). Started getting more social, me and him started smoking pot together, and you can tell me whatever you want, but when you start smoking it opens you up to a huge social circle you never knew existed before. But he started a band with some guys he knew, they party all the time with hot chicks, and he has had steady pvssy ever since. (they are all groupies! he knows it, they know it, they take their turn with each member of the band). but really, thats your solution, if you really are good at the guitar and drums, i just gave you the best idea of your life, your welcome.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. you need some confidence.

2. never call yourself a loser! You just haven't reached your true potential yet

3. Read the bible

4. Do the boot camp...you may not score at hb but you will get laid

 

[xblitz44x]

Arlo,

It's good that you're admitting those things about yourself. Your perception of yourself is really all that matters. Now that you've idenified your issues, you have to figure out where they came from. I have the feeling that the girl that told you that you were ugly, really shook your foundation of self-esteem a little bit. Don't know for sure, but you can start there. Make a list of everything that you think is AWESOME about you, and next to it, right down all the things that you think SUCK about you. That "ugly" list are the things that you need to figure out where they came from, and why you feel that way.

Now, as your past has shown you, this world is full of different view points. Some girls will think you're ugly, some girls will think you're a stunner, some will think you're boring, some will think you're very interesting. Some will think your shyness is a "frickin bore", some will think it's cute. You really don't know how other people are going to react because it's based on THEIR own paradigm that has been solidified by their past experiences. You have your own and that's the only one that you have to be concerned about. Understand that the girls in front of you are just an illusion, shells, symbolizing whatever you want them to symbolize. Have fun. Relationships, and experiences in general are there for ONE sole purpose, not to get pvssy, but to figure out YOURSELF.