"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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searching for answers to get success (long post)

badboyjmm

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I feel stuck when it comes to females. For the longest time I was trying to spin plates and it wasn't happening. Tinder is dead, don't really feel like checking out another dating website and even when I go out I don't have the drive to approach although there's couple interested chicks.

For the past 3 months, I've been going to the gym and have a better body. Getting better at sports but I feel like my failures with women is holding me back. I used to go out by myself and now, I go out with friends not too interested with trying to pick-up chicks.

Unfortunately, it got me to start gambling and I lost money that I got of used to pay my car. It got bad because I wasn't feeling like a lost anything, until it was pointed to me by my father that I'm always broke, always out late and that I have nothing to show for. I ended breaking down and started crying. I realize that I'm complaining about stuff not being done but when I have the money, I go out and lose it (because I was chasing gains for the past)

Been sick for 2 weks with a constant cold and headache. It seem like depression was settling in. My dad is asking me what wrong. I don't say anything because I feel the advice will be empty. Same thing with my friends.

I give them advice with their relationship or when they are going for girls but when it comes to me I get nothing. Or I'll get the "I wish you can have a girlfriend" or they keep mentioning to other friends that this year I kept getting friendzoned.

For whatever reason, a plate that I was banging got a boyfriend and it got me depressed. Not because I want to bang her anymore (she got super fat) but because ever since I broke up with my ex a year ago, there's no consistency although I'm trying. Friendzoned left and right.

I probably hit my low when I banged a hooker, alcohol and winning money at the casino suddenly didnt well. The hooker wasn't that good and I was working the next day (barely slept 3 hours before going to work)

Not sure if porn addiction is killing me slowly, but I'm on day 1 hopefully I can keep at it (my record is one week)

Sorry for the rambling, i just feel really disconnected with females, although when I speak to them, we generally have a good report but when it comes dating, sex, nothing happens.

Since I'm the common denominator, I know I'm the problem but I don't know what is the actual problem.

What steps can I take to find out.

Thanks guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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