"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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badboyjmm

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I feel stuck when it comes to females. For the longest time I was trying to spin plates and it wasn't happening. Tinder is dead, don't really feel like checking out another dating website and even when I go out I don't have the drive to approach although there's couple interested chicks.

For the past 3 months, I've been going to the gym and have a better body. Getting better at sports but I feel like my failures with women is holding me back. I used to go out by myself and now, I go out with friends not too interested with trying to pick-up chicks.

Unfortunately, it got me to start gambling and I lost money that I got of used to pay my car. It got bad because I wasn't feeling like a lost anything, until it was pointed to me by my father that I'm always broke, always out late and that I have nothing to show for. I ended breaking down and started crying. I realize that I'm complaining about stuff not being done but when I have the money, I go out and lose it (because I was chasing gains for the past)

Been sick for 2 weks with a constant cold and headache. It seem like depression was settling in. My dad is asking me what wrong. I don't say anything because I feel the advice will be empty. Same thing with my friends.

I give them advice with their relationship or when they are going for girls but when it comes to me I get nothing. Or I'll get the "I wish you can have a girlfriend" or they keep mentioning to other friends that this year I kept getting friendzoned.

For whatever reason, a plate that I was banging got a boyfriend and it got me depressed. Not because I want to bang her anymore (she got super fat) but because ever since I broke up with my ex a year ago, there's no consistency although I'm trying. Friendzoned left and right.

I probably hit my low when I banged a hooker, alcohol and winning money at the casino suddenly didnt well. The hooker wasn't that good and I was working the next day (barely slept 3 hours before going to work)

Not sure if porn addiction is killing me slowly, but I'm on day 1 hopefully I can keep at it (my record is one week)

Sorry for the rambling, i just feel really disconnected with females, although when I speak to them, we generally have a good report but when it comes dating, sex, nothing happens.

Since I'm the common denominator, I know I'm the problem but I don't know what is the actual problem.

What steps can I take to find out.

Thanks guys
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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