"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Okay, I did a search on what I am asking about, and I didn't come up with much of an answer; so here's my question:

I am going out to a club tonight, and I want to know if it is better to have a drink or two before approaching a hb, or if is better to be completely sober before approaching.

Thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
Okay, I did a search on what I am asking about, and I didn't come up with much of an answer; so here's my question:

I am going out to a club tonight, and I want to know if it is better to have a drink or two before approaching a hb, or if is better to be completely sober before approaching.

Thanks.
There's something about having a drink in your hand that makes you feel good.

Just pace yourself and know your limit. don't get drunk. Don't even get tipsy if you can help it. Just get a nice, soft buzz going on maybe one drink and roll with it.

~Vibe~
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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Thanks guys, I gotta get off of here and take care of some things, and I wanted to know if was going out with the right frame of mind. I'll post a FR up on here sometime next week (it depends on this stupid hurricane and any power loss we might get down here).
 

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There are a lot of variables involved in answering this question.

What kind of drinker/drunk are you?

Do you need alcohol to muster courage?

what's your tolerance like?

There is having a drink in your had as a Heffner prop and then there's having to drink to assimilate to the atmosphere...
 

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Originally posted by PeoplesChamp
There are a lot of variables involved in answering this question.

What kind of drinker/drunk are you?

I don't drink that often, and don't often get drunk. When I do get drunk, I get stupid--I won't get drunk in order to approach.

Do you need alcohol to muster courage?

I have needed alcohol in the past to muster courage, but I'm trying to not use alcohol as a 'crutch'. If I get rejected, so what. That's the kind of attitude I'm going to try to have.

what's your tolerance like?

My tolerance is pretty good; I don't care for beer, so I usually go for the mixed drinks, and this club usually has a special on well drinks.

There is having a drink in your had as a Heffner prop and then there's having to drink to assimilate to the atmosphere...


I planned on having some kind of drink in my hand, whether it be alcoholic or not--My drink of choice lately has been rum & coke.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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