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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Okay, I did a search on what I am asking about, and I didn't come up with much of an answer; so here's my question:

I am going out to a club tonight, and I want to know if it is better to have a drink or two before approaching a hb, or if is better to be completely sober before approaching.

Thanks.
 

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Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
Okay, I did a search on what I am asking about, and I didn't come up with much of an answer; so here's my question:

I am going out to a club tonight, and I want to know if it is better to have a drink or two before approaching a hb, or if is better to be completely sober before approaching.

Thanks.
There's something about having a drink in your hand that makes you feel good.

Just pace yourself and know your limit. don't get drunk. Don't even get tipsy if you can help it. Just get a nice, soft buzz going on maybe one drink and roll with it.

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Thanks guys, I gotta get off of here and take care of some things, and I wanted to know if was going out with the right frame of mind. I'll post a FR up on here sometime next week (it depends on this stupid hurricane and any power loss we might get down here).
 

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There are a lot of variables involved in answering this question.

What kind of drinker/drunk are you?

Do you need alcohol to muster courage?

what's your tolerance like?

There is having a drink in your had as a Heffner prop and then there's having to drink to assimilate to the atmosphere...
 

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Originally posted by PeoplesChamp
There are a lot of variables involved in answering this question.

What kind of drinker/drunk are you?

I don't drink that often, and don't often get drunk. When I do get drunk, I get stupid--I won't get drunk in order to approach.

Do you need alcohol to muster courage?

I have needed alcohol in the past to muster courage, but I'm trying to not use alcohol as a 'crutch'. If I get rejected, so what. That's the kind of attitude I'm going to try to have.

what's your tolerance like?

My tolerance is pretty good; I don't care for beer, so I usually go for the mixed drinks, and this club usually has a special on well drinks.

There is having a drink in your had as a Heffner prop and then there's having to drink to assimilate to the atmosphere...


I planned on having some kind of drink in my hand, whether it be alcoholic or not--My drink of choice lately has been rum & coke.
 

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