Screwed up sexual value system

[vorbis]

Ok, I've encountered this often enough over the past few months that I need to get straight what constitutes normal.

My belief system about sexual order as it were went something like
Dancing / Gridning and making out being on a par.
Feeling up
Handjob
Oral Sex
Sex

I've encountered a good few women for whom a blowj*b is a BIG deal. "I don't know you that well". Full sex though for the same women is not that big a deal.

I've encountered another girl who I grinded on in a club for like half an hour. Tried to kiss her twice and she backed off. Started telling me afterwards that she didn't make out with guys in a club as it was slutty. Me dancing with my c**k against her ass for half an hour is so much less than making out apparently

The obvious answer will be that it depends on the girl. Fair enough but I've had 4 women express a belief that a blow job was something more serious than having sex. That at least must be something of a rule.

 

[slaog]

Maybe those women just want good hygiene etc.


I think these days people believe whatever suits them best. For instance we all hear about those virgins who give oral sex. I think they're missing the whole point of what it means to be a virgin.

 

[zekko]

In some ways I could see a blowj0b being more intimate than intercourse. Depends on how you look at it.

 

[Oxide]

agreed with zekko

I have been with a few girls, and I am yet to go down on one. I can't say it's been a huge deal for any of them though, save for one.

some think it is "degrading" or submissive. some just don't know how.


Why are you worrying about this anyway? Better yet ask a girl next time you grind with her

 

[vorbis]

Worry would be the wrong word. This is more a question of curiosity.