"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Science says people decide these 9 things within seconds of meeting you

Stagger Lee

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I agree with this. People, maybe especially women, judge a person primarily visually and very quickly within seconds or less.


http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/science-says-people-decide-these-9-things-within-seconds-of-meeting-you/ar-AA9pbeP

I thought the last one was interesting:

Just a few steps were needed to give a sense of personality. Students equated looser gaits with extroversion and adventurousness, while the more clipped walkers were seen as neurotic.
So if walk loosely you're extraverted and adventurous and if not you're deemed neurotic lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who Dares Win

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Hard to disagree with the point, I challenge any of you to find a girl unattractive only to change your mind a week later after talking to her.

Regarding women I can confirm that as well, I could clearly see interested girls to be interested from a couple of lines of conversations while those uninterested kept being uninterested.

Exceptions exists but as a general rule its a matter of second, or probably of chemistry.

It works when it comes of sexual attraction, symphaty or dislike...even when you try to oppose your instinct you later find out it was right.
 

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Saw this a day or two ago on BI. Honestly, it doesn't surprise me. People take just about everything at face-value.
 

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I like to keep people guessin upon first impression.. I wear my own style of cloths, have a full head of hair, and look about 15 years younger than my age. People would never guess I make almost 100k and live where I do and have balls of steal when it comes to handling people who disrespect me. By default upon first impression don't want anyone to think I'm any better, or not as good, as they are. I like it even with as many people as possible to start, and then in time they learn what I'm all about. I think people respect you more after they find out over time that you are what you don't seem like.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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