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Don Juan
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Hey,
First off, sorry for so many threads-it is just that this forum is really helpful and has helped build my confidence. Hopefully when I become a DJ, I can give back to this forum in some way.
Anyways, my topic is practicing my game at school. School is where I spend the majority of my social time. The problem is I really want to be social and stuff there, but in classes and hallways, I just can't seem to get out of my shell. I look for opportunities, but can't really find them. In the classrooms, not every girl is horny as heck so I feel like if I say something, it will be seen as stupid. Additionally, a lot of these people have "known" of my existence I feel for a long time and I feel if I were to start acting social, they may not respond that great. Sure, like in one of my other threads, I am not supposed to succumb to that, but the whole thing is I have to go to class with these people and sit near them every day for the rest of the school year. Right now it isn't so much fear of rejection (although that probably is part of it), it is fear of dealing/talking with them for the rest of the school year. I mean, there are girls that sit around me that I haven't really talked to and if I were to turn around and talk to them, they might just be "what the heck." Additionally, I should note, two of my classes consist mainly of guys (1 girl in each though), so I really have only around 5 classes to practice in.
Also, in the halls, like during passings or before/after school, when I see strangers or hot girls I want to talk to, they may be at their lockers or walking past me-I have no idea what to do or say.
I just don't know how to act or do stuff socially at school. People/girls know I am changing. I wore a new shirt to school today that got a lot of compliments, including from a girl (of course I sort of started freaking out, but tried to keep my cool).
Does anyone have any suggestions for my school social life/practice?
*Also, one other unrelated mini-question-Sometimes in social situations, I feel like people are watching me and stuff and I begin to get red and sweat sometimes. Yeah, I know "I am not on a stage." But, I hear people snicker behind me a lot or off to the side, and it just sort of worries me. Any ways to get over this?
Thanks.
First off, sorry for so many threads-it is just that this forum is really helpful and has helped build my confidence. Hopefully when I become a DJ, I can give back to this forum in some way.
Anyways, my topic is practicing my game at school. School is where I spend the majority of my social time. The problem is I really want to be social and stuff there, but in classes and hallways, I just can't seem to get out of my shell. I look for opportunities, but can't really find them. In the classrooms, not every girl is horny as heck so I feel like if I say something, it will be seen as stupid. Additionally, a lot of these people have "known" of my existence I feel for a long time and I feel if I were to start acting social, they may not respond that great. Sure, like in one of my other threads, I am not supposed to succumb to that, but the whole thing is I have to go to class with these people and sit near them every day for the rest of the school year. Right now it isn't so much fear of rejection (although that probably is part of it), it is fear of dealing/talking with them for the rest of the school year. I mean, there are girls that sit around me that I haven't really talked to and if I were to turn around and talk to them, they might just be "what the heck." Additionally, I should note, two of my classes consist mainly of guys (1 girl in each though), so I really have only around 5 classes to practice in.
Also, in the halls, like during passings or before/after school, when I see strangers or hot girls I want to talk to, they may be at their lockers or walking past me-I have no idea what to do or say.
I just don't know how to act or do stuff socially at school. People/girls know I am changing. I wore a new shirt to school today that got a lot of compliments, including from a girl (of course I sort of started freaking out, but tried to keep my cool).
Does anyone have any suggestions for my school social life/practice?
*Also, one other unrelated mini-question-Sometimes in social situations, I feel like people are watching me and stuff and I begin to get red and sweat sometimes. Yeah, I know "I am not on a stage." But, I hear people snicker behind me a lot or off to the side, and it just sort of worries me. Any ways to get over this?
Thanks.