scared to hang out 1on1

[toddC]

In my school my group of friends and I have slowly bu surely made our way to the top of the social ladder. We know EVERY set of hot girls in the whole school. Now we hang out with all these girls naturally at parties and waht not. Obviously we get our fair share of p*ssey however I have 1 slight problem..

Hanging out wiht a girl (that i haven't known for a few months) frightens me. Like I really have no idea what to do. Right now at this moment I know 3 chicks who want to chill with me but I'm too big of a p*ssey to ask them to hang 1on1. My problem is pretty in depth. I don't know where to go or what to do with them. Also my family is a bunch of weirdos sometimes so if i was to bring a girl to my house where should I go. My room has a TV a COMP and a broken VCR lol. And if she suggests her house what could we do there? What other places (other than houeses) coudl we go?
thanks guys.

btw this is my BIGGEST problem..if i can overcome this problem I would like double or triple my girls.

 

[wavejams007]

use your imagination. If the girl is into videogames, then you can have her over and play videogames. I know it is unusual for a lot of girls to really dig videogames, but there are some out there that do. Also, if you are a random person, then this realy shouldn't be a problem for you.

 

[Damian]

If you're on the high rung of the social ladder like you say, then you shouldn't have any inhibitions. It doesn't really matter if you have any set routine or canned lines for conversation. Just hang out and have fun. You don't have to DO anything or GO anywhere. Just chill at a Starbucks or take a walk in the afternoon, maybe chill at her house if she invites you over, but you need to stop overthinking this. It's really just as easy as DOING it.

Second: This is not your biggest problem. Once you enter one phase change, the next one will be just as hard, if not even more difficult. You just need to overcome your own fear of rejection. Go out, take some risks, get dumped, get totally annihilated, but take something away from it. From failure comes experience.

Just dress nice, and feel good about yourself. If you are self-assured and confident in your abilities, you will naturally do the right thing. If you're nervous and try to follow some routine that isn't you...you're just faking it and the situation will be extremely awkward. If the girl picks up on this, you're sure to be ljbf'ed. Just be natural and be confident.

-Damian

"It's just as easy as DOING it."

 

[Reichskanzler]

I am nearly opposite of you, todd. I am at my most comfortable in a 1 on 1 situation, but am edgy around a lot of people. 1 on 1 is far more intimate in respect to both sexuality and non-sexuality.

 

[crunk]

I always run outta **** when talkin 1on1, like i can ask a variety of open ended questions, follow up correctly when she' leads me on an **** , but at a certain point, it just dies. Then i just kinda look at her with a ****y grinn and say okkk... ur turn -- entertain me ! ( i usually say this after about 15-30 sec. of silence ). but besides that i dunno what too do after the convo dies, Keep asking those damn open ended quetsions tryin to get some info outta her!!!! any thoughts , hit it up.

 

[toddC]

Yea c'mon guys this is a big problem for plenty of guys, help us out!!

 

[toddC]

b to the izzzump

 

[Distant Light]

There are many things you can do its just your not thinking about it.


Games - (truth or dare , lying game)
Play fighting for a bit
Open minded questions
Tell stories

 

[AC/DC]

Dude.. GRAB YOUR NUTS. They're there for a reason.

When she coems over, figure out what you wana do. Worst comes to worst, you guys can watch TV, and start making out.

It's not that hard.