"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Saying, Wats your name with a smile for a cold approach good?

YoungSir4sho

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Lately for cold approaches I've used. Wats your name while im smiling with eye contact. Usually they say their name. Then I ask do they live around here and stuff like that. Only used it a few times and I want to know is this a good opener.

Also I would like to know wat else I can use. Sometimes I say how u doin to start off a conversation and if they say fine or good then I continue my game. Isn't the whole point for them to respond first, then make them get to know you.
 

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Wat?




Cheers!
 

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Explain to me why wouldn't saying " what's your name" be bad?? So far I've gotten all of their names and sometimes kept talking for awhile. I think its all abouit ur deamaner and inner game. I just need something more for it to work
 

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its a pretty boring interview style type conversation.... pimp out your conversations and interaction with girls more...

like for example, instead of asking her name just say "Tell me your name!".. demand it.

a more fun and exciting conversation that is kind of edgy and unique will build attraction VERY fast... but on the flip-side, interviewing type conversations are very un-emotional and seeking rapport with her before she is even attracted.

And of course always smile, especially when you are coming in with sh!t like "Tell me your name!".
 

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I disagree... I've actually seen this opener used to great effect - in fact, just today, I saw someone open with that exact same line on the bus.

Him: "Excuse me"
Her: [Looks around, puzzled]
Him: "Excuse me - what's your name?"
Her: [Flirty, shy-ish voice now] "My name's Sarah"
Him: "Sarah? That's a beautiful name. Where you headed to, Sarah?"
Her: "I'm going to get some Thai food."
Him: "Some Thai food, huh? Mind if I join you for that?"
Her: "Uh... sure" [Smiling]
[Both walk off the bus together]

It was the simplest pick-up I had ever seen. It really made me think: Are we overcomplicating? Here we are, with people debating over whether to hi-5 or handshake, when to ask for the number, what a good opener is, when to use such and such routine...

And here, we have this guy, picking up a girl he had never seen before with the simplest "routine" I have ever heard of. In fact, it's not even a goddamn routine. It's pure, natural conversation in its most basic form.

Like it was said in an earlier post in this thread, it's all about how you carry yourself and your inner game. This guy did not flinch even once - in fact, he had to repeat "excuse me" about two or three times before she replied. He did not look away or give up the first time she didn't hear him. Throughout the entire conversation, he was smiling, keeping the tone light and playful.

It really shifted my perspective around. I too had been overcomplicating things, overanalyzing, wondering what to do, when to do it, how, and to whom. I was looking for all the right techniques. When this guy pops outta nowhere and approaches with one of the simplest and most straightforward conversations I have ever heard in my life.

I think we're overcomplicating.

Either that or we can stick to studying tons of theory, openers, negs, routines, and DHVs, 'cause that's the way to go.

To be honest I think I'll go with the simpler approach.
 

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FirstInstinct - - Thats a cool story and all. But behold the power of day game. Day Game is much more easier than night game, in my opinion anyhow.


the real challenges come in night game, in packed high energy clubs....

But even then its as easy as you make it I suppose. So yeah I would agree, lots of guys tend to over complicate things.
 

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it really is that easy. that guy who went to get thai food with the girl probably approaches tons of girls. hes probably good looking too. theres girls everywhere you go. if you got confidence you can easily start conversations with random girls anytime you want.
 

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Yea, im going to use the wat is ur name more often and report back. I think we are putting too much emphasis on all of these techniques.

I also like the Tell me your name. Im gonna try that also along with a smile and see what happens. I suggest every1 else to at least use this opener 10 times and report back in here
 

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ok to be honest.

most girls i know would never respond to something like that.

im sorry but girls nowadays are not that welcoming and they have a need tos how of their feminist bs thing.

i cant imagine walking up to a random chic and saying
"Where are you headed to Sara?"

that comes across as straight up creepy..

but secondly, i think most girls would reply with
"why do you want to know?"

or
"none of your business"

I think i wouldve gone along with..
"Excuse me, Hi im wondering if you can help me."

thats much more easier mood, and girls being naturally welcoming to ppl looking for info or help wouldnt mind stopping from thier schedule to help.

i wouldve probably gone,

"you look like you were trying to stay on schedule, didnt wanna disturb ur focus.."
"No, no i was just walkin up to the busstop" or whatever.
"oh ok..well actually thats interesting because thats what i needed some help in.."
She "what did you need?"
"well i need to find the bus stop, where are you headed?"

she: "east to xxxx"

"oh xxx, yeh i need to find the bus headed in that direction but im not that far out, i think its the same bus right? mind if i get you to walk me there?"

She: Sure np..

"so whats your name?"

she: pamela..

me: Ahh..like anderson!..lol..im just playin...

she: yeh ive got that all my life..

me: so pamela..you dont look like a pamela..anyone ever told you that?

she: no...but why do you say that? what do i look like?

me: hmmm.i dunno ill have to think about this..let me have a good look at you...**check her out**

yeh i thnk you look more of a scarlet johansen, coz you got that whole eyes game locked and the hair and the upmarket high street shopping career girl thing locked..

she: noone said that b efore..

me: yeh maybe they just scared to tell you..or shy.or nervous..

she:you didnt seem nervous..!

me: yeh but im not them..

she: hahah you didnt give me your name.

me: slickaz...so how far are you gonna make me walk to this busstop? you sure you're not just makin me walk coz you like my company?

she: hahhaa

and move on from there..gettin it locked like white on a polar bear
 

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Good job slickass

you gotta go indirect then for the killer

like a hunter preying for food

peace
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

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I don't know about that indirect stuff. Maybe that works for you but I rather do direct game. I'll let u guys know wat happens lata on
 
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