Zerotwoonenine - Take the blinkers off, I hate to admit it but Last Man Standing is right although VERY blunt. Unless you are married don't assume she's anything much more than a friend and **** buddy waiting for someone better to come along. It's only when we accept we can't get better or are have run out of time (biological clock) is when we decide to marry unless you're stupid and get married early. As for love, it's crap, you always love the one you're with. There is no such thing as soul-mates, how many times have you heard that and then they have broken up later down the line and end up falling in love with another soul-mate . Even a girl saying "I love you" constently is just her emotionally blackmailing you so that you aren't un-faithful when you are apart. Only blood relatives and people who have earned it by their actions over a long period would I consider that I love. With these people I've never needed to say "I love you" because they know by my actions. Some girl I hardly know, hell no! Girls say I love you before they're even going out with you just so when they make a move you won't reject them because you know it will hurt her feelings more - Girls are really just a bunch of AFCs although it works on us because we like sweetness and nice and don't want to upset girls.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
saying i love you
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
d9930380 said:Zerotwoonenine - Take the blinkers off, I hate to admit it but Last Man Standing is right although VERY blunt. Unless you are married don't assume she's anything much more than a friend and **** buddy waiting for someone better to come along. It's only when we accept we can't get better or are have run out of time (biological clock) is when we decide to marry unless you're stupid and get married early. As for love, it's crap, you always love the one you're with. There is no such thing as soul-mates, how many times have you heard that and then they have broken up later down the line and end up falling in love with another soul-mate . Even a girl saying "I love you" constently is just her emotionally blackmailing you so that you aren't un-faithful when you are apart. Only blood relatives and people who have earned it by their actions over a long period would I consider that I love. With these people I've never needed to say "I love you" because they know by my actions. Some girl I hardly know, hell no! Girls say I love you before they're even going out with you just so when they make a move you won't reject them because you know it will hurt her feelings more - Girls are really just a bunch of AFCs although it works on us because we like sweetness and nice and don't want to upset girls.
who says u cant love more than one girl? Love is not and ends but a means to an end
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Never hate to admit to the truth - the truth is your friend! The truth is blunt, so it must be stated bluntly!d9930380 said:Zerotwoonenine - I hate to admit it but Last Man Standing is right although VERY blunt. .
This is why they say it - it has nothing to do with feelings (not always the case, obviously) - it is a mind game - hors play with your head and emotions kids - but pimps don't play along - we are the master of hors as we are the leader of our wife and family!!d9930380 said:Some girl I hardly know, hell no! Girls say I love you before they're even going out with you just so when they make a move you won't reject them because you know it will hurt her feelings more - Girls are really just a bunch of AFCs although it works on us because we like sweetness and nice and don't want to upset girls.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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its just that after saying it sooo many times, its special meaning begins to wear off you know? any suggestions of how NOT to say it when she initiates?
It has no special meaning. I've heard it a million times normally from girls that are trying to play me, sometimes from girls that just want to get with me but know I don't really like them.
Girls aren't the romantic princesses you think they are, they are much more practical and great at manipulation. If a girl says it then just say "Prove it, Don't say it".
I'm not saying that girls don't love, just that you have to protect yourself from being fooled by the ones who are playing you.
Girls aren't the romantic princesses you think they are, they are much more practical and great at manipulation. If a girl says it then just say "Prove it, Don't say it".
I'm not saying that girls don't love, just that you have to protect yourself from being fooled by the ones who are playing you.
I agree with some of the things you said and disagree with others. First of all, I disagree about it not having a special meaning. It has a special meaning if the one saying it truly loves whoever they are saying it to and if they don't say it too much. There is a couple I know and they truly love each other but they say 'I love you' entirely too much, meaning several times a day. Those three words are really meant to be special as they express the highest feeling one human being can have for another. If you say it too much it loses its meaning.d9930380 said:It has no special meaning. I've heard it a million times normally from girls that are trying to play me, sometimes from girls that just want to get with me but know I don't really like them.
Girls aren't the romantic princesses you think they are, they are much more practical and great at manipulation. If a girl says it then just say "Prove it, Don't say it".
I'm not saying that girls don't love, just that you have to protect yourself from being fooled by the ones who are playing you.
I agree 100% with your last sentence. That really sums it all up. There are girls who will say it to you when they don't mean it just to get something from you they want, i.e. money, power, a stroke for their ego, etc. If you love a girl don't say that to her until you are absolutely, 100% sure she feels the same way about you, otherwise you will probably get burned.
Many women grow-up with the fairy tale idea in their head that one day their prince charming will come along and sweep them off their feet, and they live for the day when he will utter those 3 words to them. They love the suspense, the drama, the anticipation, the build-up to that special moment. So if you time it right it will have the desired effect and I think it's ok to say it first, but again, only if you know beyond a reasonable doubt she feels the same way about you. In other words, don't give it to them until they've earned it. If you do it too soon or at the wrong time you will screw the relationship up big time.
I made the mistake of saying it to the girl I love too soon and ended up driving her away. After that we grew apart big time and now she is not talking to me.
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thanks for all the replies
however, i still dont understand what i should say.
this is probably how things would go...
her: i love you
him: okay, bye
her: you don't love me?
then what?
however, i still dont understand what i should say.
this is probably how things would go...
her: i love you
him: okay, bye
her: you don't love me?
then what?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.