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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Saying "I love you" first to your GF - what's a good rule of thumb?

Shivastorm_88

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I don't mean as in the first time, but simply in general

All the lovey-dovey stuff, so far I haven't really initiated it, she did. However, I was wondering, what's a good rule of thumb to say it first? Once every two-three weeks perhaps?

I don't want to over-do it, but I don't want to come across as cold or anything. She has already mentioned that she finds I don't open up enough (which is true) so I'd like to find a right balance
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

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Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Uncharted

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I'm assuming you both have already said it.

Going forward, just do it when it's natural. There's no formula. The more you say it the less it will mean to her when she hears it.
 

Atom Smasher

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You need to stay mysterious and keep her guessing.

Personally, I'm all for RARELY throwing her a bone by grabbing her out of the blue, when she least expects it, saying "You know I love you, right?" and then smack her on the ass and turn your attention elsewhere.

Her heart will go pitter-patter and she will live to get those little doggie treats from you again.
 

Gangster Of Love

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Three times you tell her "I love you":

1. When she proposes to you, and you agree to marry her.

2. When she has your first child.

3. When she's at your bedside before your death.
 
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