"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Say No to Facebook !

georgie24

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If your in LTR status or hunting to build one make sure she isnt a facebooker.... it takes 2 to build and maintain a homefront. Do you want her taking pride in the homefront or living on FB ?

I speak from experience, FB has absolutely no place in the begining phases of building LTR's !

Its either she picks the homefront or FB!

be smart men
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just became 'friends' with my ltr on facialbook. God I pussed out! She kept bugging me about it and I finally caved.

Total bull**** - going to deactivate my account.

I read your other post, what happened with you two and the Facebook thing?
 

PokerInTheRear

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Oh yeah, get your age showing on your profile.
 

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HOw can these biarches have 455 friends?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Young Juan

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Depends on you gen. Under 28? Probably were in college when it was college only and not everyone on earth. Over 28? Outside of getting in touch with and keeping up with old friends outta state, pretty stale.
 

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totally agree, my girlfriend was on it all the time. so it was either me or FB. she went for me, but i was surpised at the decision.
 

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If your girlfriend is on FB all the time, it's either because:

- You made a crummy choice for a girlfriend...a vapid flake who's only good for pump-n-dump anyway, or...

- You're so boring that she'd rather be on FB than with you

Either way, you fail. :p
 

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I really don't get all the facebook hate, but maybe it's because I'm old and don't use it "properly" enough. Can someone give some good examples of why they would avoid FB? I get the part about someone spending all their time on it, and I guess I wouldn't date a girl who spent such an imbalanced amount of time on ANYTHING (FB, TV, etc.), but what else specifically? Are you just insecure that she has so many "friends" or is using it as a tool to get other guys?

I dunno, help me understand.
 

PokerStar

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I promote parties.
the more friends I have the more my parties have exposure.
its a good side thing, i get to meet tons of women.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rounder

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Abnormal amounts of FB use is a red flag in my book. Many of these girls are attention *****s and it's just another avenue for them.

My girl was my dance teacher and she "friended" me long before we got together. I enjoyed her posts, she is an intelligent, outgoing, positive woman, and FB was part of the reason I became attracted to her. She posts status updates most everyday and posts pictures a couple of times a week. She posts pictures of us, of me, our horses, our dogs, our garden, etc. It's within the realm of "normal" use and I'm cool with it.

Everything in moderation is a general rule of thumb for me.

There are men and women I've unfriended due to their repeated obnoxious posts and constant activity on FB.
 

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This reminds me of all the old timers that said texting has no place. Now it does. Recoginize that facebook is a tool, your use could help or hurt. My facebook account was started before facebook owned facebook.com, and i haven't really used it that much. Usually I tell chicks I don't have one, but I could be putting a facebook profile to good use.
 

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I have a facebook and my relationship status is on there. I dont really care, to be honest, it was just one of those things that happened. I removed my "single" tag, she changed hers to "in a relationship", so then I had to...lol the whole thing just sounds gay when I type it out. Probably because it is :rolleyes:

I've been toying with just getting rid of it for months now, but I keep staying on because I get a lot of joy out of roasting my friends and their dumb status updates. I think not having one is a smart idea, but if you do have one just be really careful of what photos get tagged of you and what people post on your wall. Your job, your school, your gf(s), all have eyes.
 

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Honestly I really would love to know how y'all have been burned by being on Facebook. I use it, I like it, my friends and I can keep in touch in creative ways....then again I'm not addicted to it nor is my girl addicted to it, maybe a shared link here and there and a status update every few days.

What am I missing? Why do you guys think it is so awful?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Facebook or don't Facebook, whatever you do, do it because you want to and not because of what a pickup forum tells you.

I don't Facebook myself, but practically every girl I know does. It doesn't bother me any one way or the other, it's certainly not a dealbreaker.
 

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Women that use facebook/twitter are in the same group as young men that sit around at net cafes playing video games on a friday and saturday night.

On a side note I'm typing this up from a net cafe as I don't have adsl set up at home right now, place is packed with young people yelling and screaming about some lame video games.

Think about it, does the rest of the world really care about what you do every minute of your life or want to know what you ate for breakfast etc.
 

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You can spot those attention ho's a mile away. They have 50+ pics taken in a mirror with their phone wearing some low-cut shirt. Then about 50 comments from FB male orbiters saying, "You look good girl. How come you never call me?"
 

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Facebook is here, you can blast it, join it, or just ignore it. That said, my own opinion is to ignore it. Career wise it's not a good option for me. Dating wise, it's easier to remain a challenge if you don't have a Facebook page. You are an unknown. That always works to your advantage. As far as it being a bad predictor in a woman, anything that's addictive is a bad predictor. Too many shoes, eating issues, 5000 friends AW behavior. They're all bad omens.
KC
 

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I see the point people are trying to make about Facebook killing your "mystery" and all that, but that is completely outweighed by the good it can do if used properly. I just got out of a LTR, and the majority of people I hung out with were also in relationships at the time. I lost touch with so many people. While posting some things gives more info to people, its also gotten me plans to go out with new people that I ended up having great nights with, including plenty of opportunities for pickups I wouldn't have had with my "relatioonship friends".

I also just had a girl I hadn't talk to in a while message me on Facebook because she saw I was single. That turned into the least amount of work possible to get her in my bed.

No one said you need to go add the girl you just met at a bar that night to Facebook. There is just no point to that. But considering the purpose of Facebook is to be friends with, well... friends.... I don't see why that "mystery" is so important.

One thing I will say, I miss the original Facebook. I was a freshman in college when it started up (for college students only) and that thing was a gold mine when it came to social life, school work, etc. I try to keep my activities on there limited to the original purpose of FB (comments, messages, events, pictures....with FRIENDS)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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