Say a girl you really like has low IL...is there anything you can do?

[skinnyguy]

Now we all know how hard it is to find a girl who's both attractive and with a great personality.

Let's say you've had a few fun outings with a girl who has these qualities (with other friends present), but she won't give you the time of day and won't go on a one on one date with you. What do you do?

I know the knee-jerk reaction is to "next" her, but is there anything that can be done?

 

[foreverAFC]

yeah man, you can win the lottery or become a famous actor or rock star

 

[Anargyros]

I think we need to create the "Oneitis Club", where guys like you and me can discuss about our oneitis and actually help each other get over it WITHOUT giving up on the chick at the same time. A different approach to the classic "Next" or "Go NC" rule.

 

[thunderbolt]

kiss her feet while she drags you desparately trying to get away.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Start gaming her friends

 

[jimmy18]

OP, probably the reason she has low IL is because you "actually" like her

 

[Serenity]

I do nothing, if she doesn't want to she doesn't want to. If she's playing hard to get she will notice and come back to you, if not you'll never hear from her again. The scenario you described is a clear sign of being in the friendzone, you fvcked up and read the situation incorrectly. What you thought was there wasn't there, it happens to the best of us. So I would save myself the trouble and just treat her as a friend.

Recently tried getting a girl in my social circle. Asked her on a date, told me she was working and made no counter-offer. Suggested another day, same explanation and no counter offer. Girls are not stupid, they often know better than most men what we're suggesting. They are pvssies though (in every sense of the word) and won't explicitly reject you. If they are interested they will say yes. So what do I do? Nothing, and if I encounter her I just act casually as I always do.

So really, there's nothing you can do to get someone to like you other than making yourself likable. So the best option is indeed "next", anything else would come off as needy and you know it.

 

[jimmy18]

OP, if you don't like a fat and ugly girl because she is..... fat and ugly, is there anything she can do to get your interest?

 

[skinnyguy]

I know that it can seem like oneitis.

And I firmly believe you should not chase women.

But, that can be a pretty lonely place. If you next every single girl you'll end up alone and masturbating to porn.

So maybe sometimes it's ok to swallow your pride if the girl isn't a complete bish.

 

[Serenity]

If women is all you do it's indeed a lonely place. Build a lifestyle instead and have the girl just fit into it. They don't give you anything if you don't have anything to offer. Flip it around, would you give something to a chick who's got nothing to offer? Something the AFC misses is that in order to get a girl with certain qualities you have to possess the same qualities.

There's 2 choices, work on yourself or accept a girl as sh!tty as yourself. If she rejects it's because you don't match, chasing is a dead end. Only exception is if you know for damn sure you're up to standard or above, even then there's a billion things that can go wrong.

 

[_sideways_]

I love these hail mary type of questions...lol

Is there anytbing you can do about being poor, fat, dumb....sure there is.
Is there anything you can do about the girl you like treating you nicely as a human being but not treating you like she wants to go to pound town...sure there is.

But are you looking for a specific play by play type of answer? Lol

You play hard to get while working on ur smarts, bank account, physique.

Its not ok to swallow ur pride on this girl because if she knows you like her, then shes being a bish by stringing you along.

Now if she does not know you want to "court" her, then maybe thats why shes not giving you tbe time of day.

Can you come up with harder problems please...

 

[Anargyros]

I understand what some say about being needy - if you make 3 strikes instead of 2, then you come along as needy. However, if we're assuming the girl ISN'T interested, what's the difference between 2, 3, 4 or 5 strikes?. ( over time of course... otherwise it's just plain stalking). I mean, you've already got the "no" (or it's implied). What's wrong with trying something else as long as it's not invasive?.

The OP is talking about a girl that's not an oneitis yet she is "special" enough to do an EXTRA effort. He is talking about her personality so I think it's clear he looks forward knowing her better, possibly a relationship, and not just an ONS 'cause she's hot.

I think there should be a middle spot between stalking the girl and not giving a damn. Something like a "Hey, if you don't want me, that's ok, but I'M NOT GIVING UP THAT EASILY ON YOU". I'm not an highly experienced guy but you can't tell me that a girl doesn't like to feel she's SPECIAL. And I'm not talking here about kissing her a** or buying her gifts or being all over her, just the fact of NOT GIVING UP and keep trying, without being clingy or needy, heck, maybe even not even being in contact with her for a month or two.
The key, of course, is being able to move on with your life, spin plates, and stuff. A full blown oneitis would paralyze you so you'd think this is the only good girl in the world and you would stop looking for others. In that case you need to give up for your own sake. It happened to me, I'm a survivor. But I still get the feeling that X chick is "special". I relate to the OP. My two cents: KEEP TRYING while moving forward with the rest of your life/plates, and improving yourself. Am I an expert DJ?. No, sorry to disappoint you. Is it delusional to think you can get her if she's not interested NOW?. Yes. Is it delusional to think you may EVER get a chance with her?. Who the heck knows?. Even if it's a 10% chance - it's worth it as long as you DON'T GIVE A DAMN in the meantime.

I probably deserve to be banned from this forum after such a blasphemous post...... but it's my sincere personal opinion.

 

[_sideways_]

I understand what some say about being needy - if you make 3 strikes instead of 2, then you come along as needy. However, if we're assuming the girl ISN'T interested, what's the difference between 2, 3, 4 or 5 strikes?. ( over time of course... otherwise it's just plain stalking). I mean, you've already got the "no" (or it's implied). What's wrong with trying something else as long as it's not invasive?.

The OP is talking about a girl that's not an oneitis yet she is "special" enough to do an EXTRA effort. He is talking about her personality so I think it's clear he looks forward knowing her better, possibly a relationship, and not just an ONS 'cause she's hot.

I think there should be a middle spot between stalking the girl and not giving a damn. Something like a "Hey, if you don't want me, that's ok, but I'M NOT GIVING UP THAT EASILY ON YOU". I'm not an highly experienced guy but you can't tell me that a girl doesn't like to feel she's SPECIAL. And I'm not talking here about kissing her a** or buying her gifts or being all over her, just the fact of NOT GIVING UP and keep trying, without being clingy or needy, heck, maybe even not even being in contact with her for a month or two.
The key, of course, is being able to move on with your life, spin plates, and stuff. A full blown oneitis would paralyze you so you'd think this is the only good girl in the world and you would stop looking for others. In that case you need to give up for your own sake. It happened to me, I'm a survivor. But I still get the feeling that X chick is "special". I relate to the OP. My two cents: KEEP TRYING while moving forward with the rest of your life/plates, and improving yourself. Am I an expert DJ?. No, sorry to disappoint you. Is it delusional to think you can get her if she's not interested NOW?. Yes. Is it delusional to think you may EVER get a chance with her?. Who the heck knows?. Even if it's a 10% chance - it's worth it as long as you DON'T GIVE A DAMN in the meantime.

I probably deserve to be banned from this forum after such a blasphemous post...... but it's my sincere personal opinion.

But ur missing the ones just as special who do want you.

Maybe shes not into his eye color and thats yhe reason and then youre just giving her the.disney story she wants. It should be.mutual or if anything for your favor 51%.

Shes already not reacting positively to him, so now hes on an uphill battle. Plus theres tons of girls who would go 50-50. On a relationship, at least until they get their claws into ur beta.chump butt.

 

[mr. kennedy]

Start gaming her friends

++1

 

[sylvester the cat]

This is why your life is so frustrating OP. You continually try to bend the world in a futile attempt to have life the way you think it should be instead of bending to the world and accepting the way it's going to be.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Look ahead for a moment - what are you looking to get out of this? To simply bang her or jump into an exclusive relationship with her? If it's just sex, then keep pursuing while seeking other options. If it's a relationship you're after with her, then I'd withdraw unless she surprises you and begins to show genuine interest. Locking down a girl with low interest creates so many problems, including extreme difficulty in setting the frame of the relationship (ie boundaries) and sustained lack of reciprocity to name a few, plus it reveals some serious character flaws on both of your ends - you're willing to get with a girl you know is not completely into you, and she's willing to get into a relationship with someone she's not completely into. I've learned the hard way that one of the more integral components of game is the willingness to walk away, especially when you know you're getting a raw deal.

 

[thunderbolt]

This is why your life is so frustrating OP. You continually try to bend the world in a futile attempt to have life the way you think it should be instead of bending to the world and accepting the way it's going to be.

sounds rather defeatist

 

[El Payaso]

Yeah. Text her everyday and duly profess your undying and never ending love for her. Only then will she five you the time of day and maybe consider going on a one on one date with you.

 

[sylvester the cat]

sounds rather defeatist

OP is asking how to change reality to suit his needs.

I'm suggesting he change his needs to suit reality.

 

[latinnova]

There is a reason why all the top Don juans say that u know when a girl has true interest in u, because they will do what ever they can to be with you when you ask. There is also a reason they say to move on when they show low interest. One, because you will be simply waiting your time on a women with low interest and pushing her further away the more you try, looking like a little beta beeatch. Second of all, it's the only way she will like u if she is ever going too. No contact will make her pause and think about what she possibly had missed. There is no middle ground, either she likes u or she doesn't.